Friendship Garden


Here at the junction, we had a great week with some of our Fillies blogging about Cabin Fever. Then yesterday, Trish did a thought provoking blog on her bucket list. These blogs brought to mind something I wanted to share that is sorta a followup to all the blogs. Didn’t take me long to dump today’s outline and post something I’ve been thinking about.

Here in the Texas Panhandle we didn’t have hardly any winter, so very little Cabin Fever.  We’ve been in a serious drought, which is great for cotton farms, but bad for about everybody else.  Oh yeah, we did have one day of snow flurries, but the next day neared 90 degrees!  Only in the Texas Panhandle!

Friendship Garden

The tending of a friendship garden is no small matter and is not to be taken lightly. Many a beautiful garden has gone to ruin for lack of proper care.  Here are some tips that may prove helpful.

Prepare the soil by tilling it with God’s unconditional love. Remove any rocks of judgment or critical attitudes. Pull out any roots of fear and jealousy. Destroy the seeds of gossip before they can even take root.

Seeds of friendship may be found most anywhere. Plant with care, using kind words and a listening ear. Germination is usually spontaneous, so be watchful. To ensure growth, water with kind deeds and a generous heart.

Make sure you give each friend plenty of room to grow.  Be realistic–don’t expect a marigold to smell like a rose. Fertilize generously with laughter and joy. Water deeply with tears of empathy and prayer to develop healthy roots and a stronger, more stable friendship.

Cultivating a friendship garden requires patience, perseverance, and time–but it’s worth it!

Thanks to Karla Dornacher, The Blessing of Friendship: A Gift from the Heart.

I can’t help but think that the farmers and ranchers during this drought and centuries before used parts of this hoping to get a good harvest, much like we might harvest our friendships.

Hope do you think people in the early days developed their friendships? No doubt every part of our country had different ways, so I’m excited to hear what you all think.


I’m thrilled that my newest contemporary western, and the second in my Kasota Springs Romance series, will be out next month!

To one lucky winner, I will give you the option of getting this book as an eBook early release or any other book of mine on Amazon.  I’ll also send you a $10.00 gift certificate from Bath and Body Works!

Late breaking news, I just got word from Kensington that The Tycoon and the Texan has been marked down to 99 cents as a special  Kindle Monthly Deal. It’s at Amazon today, but should be at other vendors later this week.  Go check it out!


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15 thoughts on “Friendship Garden”

  1. Good morning Phyliss! I always say our Texas weather can change on a dime. One April day long ago, we were going to visit friends. At the edge of town it stayed snowing like crazy so we turned around and came back home. Our friends couldn’t believe it as they didn’t see do much as a flake. Speaking of friends…they are precious, they are a blessing and they are to be cherished.

  2. Thanks, Melanie, for dropping by. You are so right about the weather. I feel so close to my friends and couldn’t resist sharing this writing. I hope you have a wonderful week. Big hugs from one Texan to another.

  3. We had no winter here and are in a drought as well. In the olden days people showed care, concern, warmth and were willing to help with anything since neighbors were important in their lives for their survival.

    • Hi Pearl, glad to see you today. Yuck on the drought for all of us. I totally agree that in the olden days, without electronics clinging onto everybody, people were caring ad concerned. Today, it seems people don’t even know how to write a thank you note or just pick up the phone and call those who you love. Thanks for dropping by.

    • Thanks, Colleen. I appreciate your comment. I wasn’t sure whether to do it or not because it really isn’t western related, but it’s human related. Thanks, again, my friend.

  4. Here in the apartment complex I live in, in downtown Lincoln Nebraska there will be raised gardens so we can plant flowers outside and have them to look at and take care of hoping to start that next month as the weather here is still cold. Looking forward to reading your new book.

    • Hi Kim, so glad to hear from you. I think it’s really cool, having your complex provide a place for flowers. I bet it’s cold in Nebraska right now. Weather has been really funky all around. I hope you enjoy my newest Kasota Springs Western Romance. Next month, before it’s officially released, I plan on writing my blog about the book behind the story. Hope you warm up soon and you put some of your flower bed pictures on Facebook. Take care and keep warm.

  5. The beauty of Spring has arrived and the warmth and sunshine is lovely. I need this as it soothes my body and soul. Friendships add so much to our lives and we need to nurture and be kind and thoughtful.

  6. Hi Pearl. Good to hear from you. I love Spring! I always feel better, unless it gets too hot, and agree that it soothes my soul. I have a couple of extra special friends, who keep me going so much of the time. They truly don’t know how much they mean to me. Being kind ad thoughtful is another great point in keeping friends. Thanks for that addition. Hope you have a great week.

  7. Hi Janine, you are so right about trading goods and services. I’m taking that from my research when I was writing 1800’s western historical romances. As it is today, friendships were certainly cultivated through community activities. Great new thought pattern, Janine. Even today, in my neck of the woods, it’s customary to never return a dish without having something in it. If I send cookies next door, I am assured I’ll get it back with some type of goodies in it. Could be my raisin’, since my Granny was raised on her families’ plantation in Louisiana. Of course, during those days, they didn’t have paper/plastic plates! Have a great day and thanks for stopping by and taking the time to leave a comment.

  8. Early settlers, especially the women, had little time to cultivate friends. They worked hard to keep house, raise their children, tend a garden, care for the animals, and help on the farm or ranch. The only free time she would have would be after church (if they had one to attend) or when she went to the general store for supplies. Almost any woman she met would be in the same situations she was. This common ground and the short time they had would work for quick friendships to be formed and nurtured with each time they met. The commonality of what women dealt with every day would be a bonding element all across the country in all sorts of communities.

  9. HI Patricia, I love your comments and certainly agree with you. I recall(from research) many of the women got to know one another when they went to town to get supplies. That is, of course, if they could because of the many chores on the ranch. I think mostly men did the shopping. I truly believe women of the 1800’s truly bonded because they had so much in common. Like today, we group together with common interests. Thanks, Miss Patricia, for giving us more food for thought. I hope you have a great evening.

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