New Year’s Resolutions … Have you made yours yet?

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HOWDY  – I’m filling in for Stacey Kayne today. Hope you all don’t mind!

At the end of the year, millions of people across the world make resolutions for the upcoming year so I thought it’d be fun to take a look at New Year’s Resolutions.

Here’s what Wikipedia says about New Year’s Resolutions: 

A New Year’s Resolution is a commitment that an individual makes to a project or a habit, often a lifestyle change that is generally interpreted as advant

ageous. The name comes from the fact that these commitments normally go into effect on New Year’s Day and remain until the set goal has been achieved, although many resolutions go unachieved and are often broken fairly shortly after they are set.

That being said, I found some sound advice for keeping your resolutions.  See if they work for you.

The Five Stages That Lead to Successful Resolutions

Pre-contemplation: The desire to change is vague. This is a good time to seek information and ask some important questions such as, “What risks am I running by going along just as I have been?”

Contemplation: Weigh the benefits of change. This is a time to get specific, to monitor behavior. For example, keep a record of how much you eat, drink, spend, etc.

Preparation: Begin making small changes. For example, you might give up some TV time and redirect your energy. Now’s the time to tell family and friends that the leopard is about to change his spots. This is the time to make a firm commitment.

The Action: Banish and sacrifice vices while embracing and committing to new virtues. At this point, give yourself all the help and support you can by creating a sense of accountability to others. Encourage family and friends to prod, provoke and push you.

Maintenance: This is the challenging part. You’re finished with your old habit and into your new life. It is a lot easier to maintain your resolution than it is to regain it. Do your self a monumental favor and stay focused on WHY you set this resolution in the first place!

Those who stay the course and fulfill their resolutions share these characteristics:

1. They believe in their ability to change.
2. They did not indulge in self-blame or excuse making.
3. They avoid wishful thinking and concentrate on results.
4. They understand their motivators and reasons why the resolution is important.    

Here’s the Top Ten New Year’s Resolutions? How many are on your list?

2443938661.jpg   Find a Better Job

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Quit Smoking

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  Find My Soul Mate

 

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Enjoy More Time with Family and Friends

 

 

 Learn Something New

Volunteer to Help Others

Lose Weight and Get in Shape

Reduce Your Debt

Stick to a Budget

Get Organized

HERE’S MY LIST — IT’S SHORT BUT ALL THINGS I HOPE TO ACHIEVE THIS YEAR

Exercise More  (I do really try)

Read More  (My fondest wish -I miss reading)

Keep One Step Ahead of my Deadlines  (Otherwise life gets crazy))

Spend More Time Away from the Computer  (Which sort of opposes the above resolution)

SO WHAT ARE YOUR NEW YEAR’S RESOLUTIONS?  WHICH ONES ARE MOST IMPORTANT TO YOU?  I HOPE TO HEAR FROM YOU!

HAPPY TRAILS, HAPPY HOLIDAYS AND HAPPY READING! 

                                                                                                                                                              

Thanks to all who posted today!

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Thanks for stopping by today. It was fun learning about your favorite charities and I’ll be donating $40.00  to Operation Gratitude. 

From the drawing I held in my husband’s very own cowboy hat, I picked these two winners. Congratulations:

Julie

Jennifer Y

Please contact me at charlenesands@hotmail.com 

Let me know which one of these books you’d like to receive and send along your full name and address. Happy Reading!!

In The Spirit Of The Season … Post a Comment & Help a Soldier!

My father was a sergeant in the US Army during WWII and sadly tdad-mom-f.JPGhat era of brave men are almost all gone. But while growing up, he instilled in our family a sense of respect for those who serve in the armed forces. Their daily sacrifices are only intensified during the Holiday Season when many are stationed far from home. Many soldiers have new babies they’ve yet to meet. Many have not seen their wives, fathers, mothers, sisters or brothers in over a year. Many have few or no family back home to give them support and love. My father married my mother while on a 2-day pass during the war before he was sent to the Phillipines and they spent months and months apart before they could settle down for a normal life. 

Each year I donate my time and money to a worthy cause. In the past I’ve supported, the American Red Cross and Habitat for Humanity during Katrina, the Make a Wish Foundation for ill children, the Woman’s Rescue Mission in my own hometown, among others. This year, I’m proud to say that I’ve worked with Operation Gratitude, a non-profit organization set out to mail “care packages” showing our gratitude to American soldiers all over the globe.

Last week my husband and I worked on the assembly line, filling Flax Rate boxes with DVD’s, Girl Scout Cookies, headphones, magazines, candy, hand lotion, chapstick, og.jpgbatteries and an array of necessities and frivolties the soldiers rarely receive, amid hundreds of volunteers. The assembly line process is well-honed from the years since 911 when one woman, Carolyn Blashek started this great charity and I’m proud to say we sent out 4,000 boxes the morning I worked. An astounding 298,000 boxes have been sent since 911 and I plan to be there when we send out the 300,000 box. 

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So today, my question is what charity do you find near and dear to your heart? Do you have a favorite and would you care to share with us a story that has inspired you?

For each person who comments, I’ll be donating $1 to Operation Gratitude in my father’s memory as well as another morning of service to get those packages out to our soldiers before Christmas.

I’ll also pick from a random drawing to send TWO LUCKY winners a book from my back list as a thank you for blogging with me this year.

To learn more about Operation Gratitude click HERE.

 I’ll be checking in during the next weeks, but this is my last official blog of 2007, but we do have some fun things planned so keep visiting us.

I’ve enjoyed meeting each and everyone of you and I wish you all a safe and joyful holiday!

Happy Trails and Happy Reading!

A Note From our First Contest Winner … Amelia

img_0079.jpgAs contest coordinator for Petticoats and Pistols, I’d like to take the opportunity to thank each of you for supporting our site and entering our Big Fall Bonanza contest!  It’s been a fun experience for all.  Please look forward to another contest coming very soon and in the meantime, continue to read our blogs and enjoy our site.

Here’s just part of the beautiful note we received from Amelia, our contest winner.  

Amelia says:

 Many thanks to you and all the talented authors of the Petticoats and Pistols group. You have definitely made my November end a notable way! I am still smiling the biggest grin I have had lately! Looking forward to each of your upcoming releases, too, as I know I will be treated to another winning Western story full of compelling characters and engaging plots. And for those of you, like you who write in other genres, I also look forward to those stories!

Someone Lucky Will Win This Tomorrow!

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It’s the end of our Big Fall Bonanza Contest!  The winner will be announced tomorrow.  Stop by and see if you’re the lucky winner!  Stacey Kayne will be blogging. Don’t miss it!

Here’s a list of prizes:

Autographed books from all the gang here at Petticoats and Pistols.

Riflemen DVD

Red Cowboy Bandana

A $20.00 Barnes and Noble Gift Card

Cowboy Boot Candle

Cover Flats from Various Authors

Round Up Candy

What Women Want from Men … See If You Agree!

Recently a friend shared a “nightmare” homecoming date story that her daughter endured.  The boy didn’t bring her a corsage, though she was ready with a buttonaire.  He didn’t drive in the limo to the Pre-Party hosted at a parent’s house – to take pictures.  The girl had to take pics without her date. When he showed up at the dance, he wasn’t around for the professional photos taken there and as he danced with his date for two pathetic dances, he was texting another girl.  Then he informed her he wouldn’t be driving in their limo, since he was invited to a different party and he’d go in that limo. At lastly, the poor girl lost her shoes!  Someone had moved them while she was dancing – they were later found.  So she returned home, without her date and no shoes. As a parent I was appalled to hear this story. Don’t worry, the gal’s mother called the boy’s parents and gave them a piece of her mind.  The boy eventually called with an apology – too little, too late.

Since we love romance, we often fantastize about today’s man and how he behaves.  Which brought up the question about this generation of men and are women demanding less of men these days?

Here’s a list from AskMen.com that I came upon.

What Women Want from Men:

Return her messages

Many women gauge a man’s interest level by how long it takes him to respond when she contacts him. If his response time is poor, she might assume he’s just not that into her. Now, it’s no secret that women and men have differing imagesphone.jpgopinions on what constitutes good communication, and we’re not saying you need to drop everything the minute she calls. She knows you’re a busy man; she’s busy too. What women want from men is a call back as soon as they’re able, as opposed to sometime the following day. This doesn’t mean you have to send an e-mail or a text of epic proportions if you don’t have time; a sentence or two will suffice to make her feel like you care — which is all she really wants to know.

Kiss her for no reason

As much as they love sex, women also enjoy a nice, deep kiss that doesn’t have any strings attached. This serves two purposes: It lets her indulge in kissing for the sheer pleasure of it, and it also tells her you want her, and not just sex. Yes, you’re charming and sexy and she loves being naughty for you, imageskissing.jpgbut sometimes she needs a different type of connection. To really do what women want from men, try a surprise kiss for no reason at all; she’ll love you for it. Combine this with a little hand-holding and she’ll be smiling for days.

  

  

Dance with her

Simply put, dancing with a woman makes her feel special. imagesdancing.jpgUnfortunately, most men are reluctant to put their dancing shoes on, especially in a public setting. Guess what? While she’d probably welcome the idea, you don’t need to visit a nightclub to dance with your woman. She’ll be just as thrilled if you slipped a little Marvin Gaye on and danced with her in the living room. This would actually be to your advantage, as you have total control over the music. You’re also conveniently located if the dancing starts to get dirty…

Dress up for her

Dressing up to take your woman out is an excellent way to impress her. It’s not about the clothes; it’s about the fact that you find her worth dressing up for. It lets her know that you think she’s worth that kind of effort. Besides, a nice shirt and dress pants can increase your sex appeal by leaps and bounds; you may feel overdressed, but your hotness factor cameron2.jpgwill have magnified exponentially. It’s true what they say: Women really do love a sharp-dressed man.

 

 

Remember random milestones

As a rule, birthdays and anniversaries should always be remembered; forgetting something of this magnitude will send the message that you don’t find her terribly important. After all, she probably memorized yours early on in the relationship, so if hers goes unnoticed, she’ll be utterly heartbroken. Here’s how to do what women want from men: To truly impress her, aim to remember the insignificant dates, as well as the big ones. The first time you told her you loved her, the first time you kissed, the first place you vacationed together, what she was wearing the first time you met — any one of these will turn her to jelly and score you more bonus points than you can shake a stick at.

Take on an activity with her

What women want from men is to spend time with their man outside of the bedroom. They want to experience life with their man, and this is one of the best ways to develop a imagestennis.jpgthree-dimensional relationship.  Don’t worry; we’re not recommending you join her yoga class; rock-climbing, hiking, tennis or cycling are activities both of you can enjoy. If neither of you are the sporty type, try something else that you already excel at. Teach her how to swing a 9-iron or to shoot pool — she’ll love the personalized attention.

Propose a visit to her family

Women love it when a man gets along with her friends, but she simply adores it when he gets along with her family. Even if you’re not particularly fond of her busybody mother and father, suggesting a visit (even just a yearly one) can really make your woman’s day. It lets her know you recognize the importance of family. This is truly the kind of suggestion that leads to a warm and fuzzy feeling, so don’t be afraid to suggest it.

So, is this what women really want from men?  Do you agree with this list.  What’s on your list?  What would you add or change on this list?  

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My Neighbors Never See Me … or A Day in a Writer’s Life

It’s true. My imagescrazy.jpgneighbors never see me anymore. They know I’m home, in here somewhere, doing my job. Gone are the old days, when I’d sit outside watching my kids play in the street with the other kids, while the mothers swapped stories images2.jpgabout school and shopping, sharing their innermost thoughts. Now, my kids are grown and I define myself not as a part-time childbirth educator any more but as a full-time writer. It’s not glorious or glamorous but it’s work I’m passionate about. That’s not to say I don’t have some “pull my hair out” days.  I do and they aren’t pretty. Most of the time, I’m racing with the clock. There isn’t enough time in the day for me.  Often times I’m working 7 days a week – it seems rare that I get a weekend without a few trips to the computer. This is not news to writers. I’d venture to guess we’re all about the same.

I had the good fortune this Saturday to sit with bestselling, award-winning author, Stella Cameron during my Romance Writer’s of America chapter meeting and she remarked about people’s preconceived notions about our writing life. So I picked an “average” day and thought I’d share with you my routine. 

As soon as my dh kisses me good-bye (After 30+ years, I’ve learned the man isn’t a conversationalist in the a.m. so I don’t get up until he leaves – I’m too chipper for him).  I imagescoffee2.jpghead straight for the kitchen and brew some decaf.  While I’m waiting I log onto the computer and pull up my emails. A slow email day is 20, a busy email day is 5o. If I miss a day due to a computer glitch (I’m presently angry with my computer!) I’ll log on to over 100 emails.  Most emails I simply read and delete,  but many require a response.  I get my coffee and sit down and spend the next hour going thru and answering the emails.  One email requested me to send in my profile, an interview and bio for the Mills and Boon site, the request coming from an editor.  This takes time, so I set this aside for the time being as I try to figure when I’ll be able to get to it.   My coffee is tasting really good by now and I’m almost ready for my morning breakfast of Weight Watchers English muffins and another cup of coffee.  I try to limit my email time to one hour, but often I exceed that. 

By 9 AM, I’m ready to really dig in, but as I check my email messages one last time, I see a note from my editor- she needs my bio and dedication and a Dear Reader letter for my upcoming release.  Okay, that can’t really wait.  I bring my breakfast to the computer and I think what I want to say in the Dear Reader letter.  The bio is easy, but the dedication isn’t.  I like to make them short and sweet and today it isn’t really coming. wordtree5.jpg The Dear Reader letter takes me almost two hours.  The ideas from my idea tree aren’t formulating easily. 

 When there’s a knock on the door, I freeze. I’m never dressed before noon and I have to decide if I want to answer the door in my fluffy lavendar robe.   Yesterday, I didn’t and I missed an important package.  Today, I decide to take my chances and go for it.  I open the door to Gayle, my mail lady and she’s got my AA’s (author alterations) for my March  historical,  Taming the Texan.  Wonderful … the AA’s require going over every word in the 300 page manuscript looking for errors.   There’s a deadline and luckily I’ve got more than a week to do them. After I sign for them, teasing Gayle that I’ll only open the door looking like this … to himagesmailady.jpger, she replies, “I’m sorry, I always seem to wake you.”   The irony makes me smile. To this I reply, “I’ve been working since 6:30 at the computer.  There’s no need to get dressed – I can’t afford to waste the time,” I explain and we have a laugh.  (I’m still not sure she believes me.)

With AA’s in hand I head back to the computer. I’m feeling slightly put off – I haven’t gotten to my work in progress yet and it’s almost noon!  I have this uncanny habit of checking my email every few hours.  So I check it again and have a message from my daughter. There’s always time to answer her.  And I have a cute joke from my hubby.  By now, I’m needing a lighter moment, so I read the joke and it makes me laugh.  There’s 10  more emails to read and I  answer as many as I can quickly.

It’s 12:15 and I realize I better get cracking. What’s worse than being on a deadline, is trying to get a proposal sent off to your editor.  This requires 3 chapters and a synopsis. Only this time, it’s a trilogy that I’m working on.  That means a full proposal for the first book and two more synopses for the 2nd and 3rd books. Most writers would rather have a root canal than write a synopsis.   Putting your ideas down is easy, having them make sense isn’t!  So it requires hours of honing and editing. 

By 2 pm, I realize I haven’t eaten lunch. This isn’t good.imagessalad.jpg I’m trying to lose weight and skipping meals doesn’t help. You’ve got to eat your 3 healthy meals a day and snack lightly in between.  I learned this not from WW, but from the TV show, The Biggest Loser.   I hate to stop, but I need nourishment so I fix a salad, turn on my faithful show Days of our Lives that I’ve taped with the DVR aimagesdays.jpgnd try to get my story out of my head for half an hour.  I’m really enjoying the salad and the time away from the computer but as soon as the meal is finished, I head back to my work in progress. I NEED to finish this proposal – the bulk is there – but it still needs more honing and polishing.  A good writing day for me is 5 pages of polished work.  An excellent day is 8 pages of semi-ready work. I’ve barely written three pages today and the clock is ticking. Soon, I’ll have to stop to make dinner. 

Not that my hubby isn’t supportive – he often volunteers to cook when I’m busy. But he’s just worked an 8 hour day and honestly – I need time off the computer chair.  As I leave my seat to put together my dinner, I pass our “exercise” room and I look longingly at the treadmilimagestreadmill.jpgl.  I’m not being sarcastic – I really try to work out every morning, but today’s not going to be that day. The morning’s long gone and it’s time for my husband to come home from work.  I resign myself to working with weights and doing some late night pilates while I’m watching television with my hubby later on in the evening.  This is a “must do”.  

Dinner is great and I spend an hour or two with my hubby. If he happens to head to the garage to work on a  project – today he’s bent on fixing a drawer in our kitchen, then I head back to the computer. I check emails, do some editing and start working again.   Sometimes, I work until 8PM, sometimes 9PM and I’ve learned to always make time for my husband.  I’ll drop my work in a heartbeat if he needs my attention or simply wants to do something together. That is another “must do”.  

When I finally close down for the night, I make a mental list of what I need to do first thing the next day.  I still have to do the Mills and Boon interview. I need to send a book I promised for a charity benefit. I have to return a few phone calls I didn’t get to today. I owe my best friend a call too.  The AA deadline is looming. I can’t put that off – the book is scheduled for March.  I haven’t checked MySpace in days or Shelfari in weeks! Or entered the Rita Contest or sent my January book out for review.  And I NEED to finish my proposal! 

But tomorrow is another day.

Update: It’s been more than 2 weeks since I began this Blog.  I still haven’t finished the Mills and Boon thing.  BUT, the AA’s are done!  AND I sent off my proposal and SOLD it during that time. I’m employed again!  I  just realized I made two “obvious” typos in my November ENewsletter due to rushing – ugh!  And I’m making mental lists of all the things I still need to do. Did I mention I’m also planning my daughter’s wedding? 

So what’s your story?  Is your writing day similar to mine? And if you’re not a writer – what’s your average work day like? Do you have a job that’s a  neverending compilation of “to do’s? Any daily rituals you’d care to share?

 

 

Bodine’s Bounty Winner and a Special Thank You!

Dear Friends,

Thanks for a wonderful day blogging. Aside from the horrible fires in California (thankfully not in my valley this time), it’s been an incredibly sad week with health issues for my closest friends and family.  You  all made my day a happy one. I really enjoy spending time with you on the blog. I hope you come back often to see all the Petticoats.

Now for the fun part. I get to give away my western to:

ALISSA

You’ve won the random drawing! Please contact me at charlenesands@hotmail.com with your address.

Be sure to stop by tomorrow for our Guest Blogger, Cindy Holby!