Excuses, Excuses

Mary  Connealy’s post of excuses

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The Queen for the Day for Excuses!!!

Life is busy for everyone, I know.

But mine has seemed unusually hectic for a while and just now, tonight at 12:06 a.m. While lying in bed, an electrical jolt hit me that it was MY DAY ON PETTICOATS AND PISTOLS.

I have been in Omaha all day. And I was in Omaha most of last week. And I had two meetings on…well….blah, blah, blah.

I have excuses.

But I decided to throw myself on the mercy of the very nice readers of Petticoats and Pistols by telling what my excuses are.

First and foremost I’ve been kept very busy buy THIS:

Katherine smMy new granddaughter Katherine.

I have been helping a LOT. (No matter how hard my daughter tries to escape!)

And every time I don’t see her for two weeks it’s like she’s not only a whole new baby…but I can tell she FORGETS ME.

She is fine and perfect and three months old ON Thanksgiving Day.

I visit a lot.




Katy Wedding Family Photo cropped smAnd there was this:

Yes, it was waaaaay back in June, but man oh man was my head foggy by the time my youngest daughter got married. The four young adult women in this picture are my four daughters.

Count their three husbands and you know I’ve got one more to go (depending on how the universe unfolds, y’know!)

And one of those women is pregnant. (see picture above)

So this pretty picture of my whole family was seriously out of date about two months after it was taken.



Click to buy on Amazon
Click to buy on Amazon

And there was this: Which I know I’ve talked about but launching a new book is a lot of work, especially when you are also writing other books.

Bailey Wilde is the oldest sister–and the one who takes care of everyone else in her family. But after her sisters marry and move away, her little homestead becomes bleak and lonely, especially during the long winter months. In a moment of weakness, Bailey agrees to a wild plan concocted by her neighbor, Gage Coulter.

Gage is an honest man, but he didn’t make his fortune by being weak. He won’t break the law, but he’ll push as hard as he can within it. Five thousand acres of excellent grazing land is lost to him because Bailey’s homestead is located right across the entrance to a canyon full of lush grass. Gage has to regain access to this land–and he’s got to go through Bailey to do it. So he makes a proposal…

Can these two independent, life-toughened homesteaders finally loosen up enough to earn each other’s respect–and maybe find love in the process?



And there was this:

With This Ring bethany house
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Coming in January–Four top historical romance novelists team up in this new collection to offer stories of love and romance with a twist of humor.

In Karen Witemeyer’s “The Husband Maneuver,” Marietta Hawkins decides to grab the reins when the ranch foreman she loves seems to be leaving forever.

Regina Jennings offers “Her Dearly Unintended,” where friends stranded by a rising river pretend to be newlyweds when a dangerous stranger arrives.

Mary Connealy’s “Runaway Bride” finds a Texas ranger getting more than he expected when he rescues a young woman fleeing a dangerous arranged marriage.

And Melissa Jagears’ “Engaging the Competition” finds a young woman forced to assist the man she’s often sparred with after an accident leaves him helpless. Each tale is a fun blend of history and romance that will delight readers.




Also coming in January (Yes ALSO) there is this:

Lassoed by Marriage
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Come along on a romantic journey jam-packed with all the angst of marriages founded upon practical choices as well as coercion.

Meet nine couples who barely know each other before they find themselves suddenly married to please family, to stem the tide of gossip, to save the land and joined for life.

But can love grow when duty comes before romance? 

My personal contribution to this collection is A Bride Rides Herd, starring characters from earlier novels including Calico Canyon and The Husband Tree.






12brides of Christmas
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And I have to mention this:

It’s a collection containing books released earlier as ebooks, now gathered into a 12 book Christmas novella collection called The 12 Brides of Christmas. Including my contribution The Advent Bride and fellow filly Margaret Brownley is in this with me.

Christmas is the time for love—and weddings—and twelve historical women are on their way to the altar, whether they know it or not.

In Nineteenth Century settings across the heartland of America, readers will experience heartfelt gifts, old-fashioned Christmas traditions, sweet romance, and inspiring faith from twelve acclaimed Christian authors, including Mary Connealy, Margaret Brownley, Pam Hillman, Maureen Lang, Michele Ule, Amy Lillard, Miralee Ferrell, Susan Page Davis, Diana Lesire Brandmeyer, Amanda Cabot, Davalynn Spencer, and Vickie McDonough.





But honestly really, my real excuse goes right back to this:

Katherine one weekTo try and make up for the ridiculous level of distraction which is my new granddaughter (I’ve got three other grandchildren and they are distracting in equal part but a bit older so they don’t forget me EVERY TIME!) (I hope)

I am giving away a $25 Amazon gift card which I urge you to spend wisely (or go nuts, whatever)

And forgive me for my EXCUSES

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106 thoughts on “Excuses, Excuses”

  1. Oh my goodness Mary!! I’m loving your sweet “excuses” 🙂 There just isn’t enough day in your day (or year, or month) to do everything you intend, is there?? But you know what, it’s really ok. Because looking at that adorable baby face and all those happy smiling family members at the wedding makes it all the better 🙂 Life isn’t always about all the things that we must get done, sometimes it’s about those small moments that mean so much more! I loved how you shared your special times these past months, they warmed my heart and put a few smiles on my face too! Thanks for sharing 🙂

      • Aren’t grandkids THE best?? And I have to agree they get more adorable with time 🙂 We have our first grand-girl (20 months), she’s such a delight and her laughter just melts us into a puddle! I also did the same thing as you, I helped my daughter for a while, but it really wasn’t a burden. We’re very blessed to live about a 10 minute drive from her, so we can see her anytime. We also are able to watch her on the weekend while mom & dad work. For me too, being a Grandma (a younger one,I’m only 45, lol) really overwhelmed me with the intense love I have. It certainly wasn’t something I was prepared for either 🙂 I love watching my daughter with her, she’s such a good first mommy!

        I don’t know if I was supposed to add that I’d like to be in the drawing. I’m assuming anyone who made a comment is automatically in the hat 🙂 Thank you for the chance, Mary! Enjoy your grand-dorables and just be “you” and not try to compete with the other grandma. They will love each of you just the way you are! 🙂


        That other grandma seems to be more spry than me, too. She’s always on the floor playing with them.

        I’m all, “Wow, my back hurts, my knees hurt. Can’t we play a card game sitting at the table?”

        I think she’s mostly my age, too.

        And all those COOKIES!!!!!!

        I quit baking around 2004

  2. What a precious granddaughter Mary. That counts as an excuse any day! Thank you for sharing your pictures and also for writing such wonderful books for all of us.

    I would love to be in your drawing. Thank you for your generosity!

    Smiles & Blessings,
    Cindy W.

    countrybear52 AT yahoo DOT com

    • She is precious, Cindy. I do take my laptop along to write while Katherine naps, but then she’ll nap and I’ll find myself holding her when she nods off and it’s so easy to just keep holding her!

  3. Aww! I totally forgive you. Although, I wouldn’t mind holding your adorable granddaughter as a form of forgiving you. 😉 It’s also nice to hear that you have been busy, too. 🙂

    • Faith she is so sweet to hold. And I can remember how tiny and fragile she was. (8 pounds at birth, so not tiny in true ‘tiny baby’ world, but still……)
      Now she’s getting sturdy and smily, it’s so cool to watch her grown and change.
      My gosh she’ll be a teenager wanting her own car before you know it!!!

  4. Looks like you had a gorgeous day for your daughter’s wedding! What a beautiful family picture!

    I also have 4 children so I can relate to the pictures being outdated in a couple of months. 3/4 are married. We just found out our daughter is expecting grandchild #3 in June! YAY! Always room in our hearts for more.

    Best wishes for your upcoming releases!

  5. I believe we can let you slide this time. You have been very busy. And with that cute granddaughter, I don’t think I could think of anything else.

  6. In my humble opinion that is the best excuse ever! I know I will be one smothering grandma once my girls start having kids. 🙂

    • Susan P you cannot believe the love for grandbabies. It took me by surprise, even though my own mom warned me. 🙂 And Katherine is my fourth (another daughter has three children)

      Still it sneaks up on you. Add in your only real goal in life is to be the FAVORITE grandma and it becomes all about having fun with them.

      PS the other grandma makes fantastic cookies so it’s not easy!!!!!!

      AND My Cowboy loves to take them to the basement and shoot their little Nerf guns and they all laugh and frolic and just LIGHT UP when he comes. Grandma is more of a ‘Let’s Read a Book” type.

  7. Don’t say excuses, Mary, these are lifetime memories you’ll never get back. Enjoy every day with your family and sweet grandchildren. You gave us several new stories to look forward to in the meantime.

    • Linda it IS important. And my daughter’s husband travels, not often but two or three days every couple of months, for work. So she needs me. This is all about me helping, not me sneaking in grandma time. (please accept that as TRUTH)

  8. Mary, You have the perfect excuse. What a darling granddaughter. Enjoy!

    Every time I read the name Gage Coulter, I shake my head. It’s so close to my hero’s name, Gabe Coulter, in Gabriel’s Atonement. Hey! Maybe they’re long, lost cousins! Maybe we should do a novella collection with the two–wink.

    • Hi Vickie,
      Your comment about Gage and Gabe reminds me of the time I got a panicky call from an editor. Another writer and I had handed in books at about the same time that were identical in many ways, including titles, hero job and protagonist names. Fortunately, I handed my book in first so I didn’t have to change anything, but it was still spooky.

    • I am totally stealing the name Gabe, Vickie. I will try and wait a few books to minimize the conflict with your hero and mine. Or have I already done a Gabe?
      I need to make a chart.
      I am drawn to one syllable men’s names with a long “A” sound. Jake, Clay, Wade, Rafe, Gage. Then next one syllable men’s names with any long vowel sound, Cole, Heath, Luke. Then two syllable men’s names with a long vowel sound. Silas, Eli, Isaac, Ethan, Wyatt, Michael, Braden, David, Rylan, Logan comes to mind.
      Whether it’s true or not, I suppose that sounds strong to me.

      Have I ever used Nate? Okay, now I’m two hero names ahead. I looked through some of my books and have found a Gabe, and two Jakes, two Isaacs and two Lukes…I’d better simmer down and use some short vowels for a while.

  9. I am reminded of my high school band director who had many a great word of wisdom, such as “You can’t make chicken soup out of chicken poop” and, more applicable today, “Make changes not excuses.” All of which we promptly threw back in his face every chance we got. For someone with such infinite wisdom, he could make some pretty miserable excuses.

    Anyway, I guess if I could manage to forgive him for daily crushing our souls for four years, I can dredge up a little more forgiveness for you. Especially since you’re offering a bribe. Looking forward to all those novellas coming!

    • I thought I responded to this, Rachael but now it’s gone.
      Hmmmmm….floating in cyberspace somewhere!
      Daily crushing our souls for four years? OH MY GOSH!

  10. Wow, all wonderful excuses. I’m still waiting for my first grandchild. My oldest daughter got married for the second time this summer. This guy is a keeper 🙂 My other daughter is saying she doesn’t want kids 🙁

    • They are blessings and what’s really wild is, my daughters call me for advice.

      Once in a while I come up with something, caveman stuff like, “Have you ever tried slapping his fingers and telling him NO!?”

    • Laurie I haven’t done a baby in a book for a while. I do kids some but babies, wow, they are HARD! Mainly because they have to BE SOMEWHERE.
      I’m forever forgetting where the baby is, and I have to go waaaay back and read until I find where the baby is, is someone holding him? Have I just forgotten he existed? Is it naptime for like 70,000 words of an 80,000 word book?
      What if mama has to leave the house? The baby can’t be left alone. It gets pretty complicated. little children are better, they can be a source of fun, but oh man those babies!!!!!

  11. Congrats on the new grandbaby,,i had one born on Oct 5th so I know the feeling,,this made me 14 grandbabies and each one is special and adored,,so yes that is a great excuse enjoyed the post

    • Hi Kim. Thank you. Yes she is a doll. I’m just so in love.
      My oldest grandchild is a girl, turning seven soon. She’s so fun to talk to and so bright and pretty.
      Then there are two boys.
      Of course I have NO IDEA what to do with a boy, having had three daughters.
      My daughter will call and tell me some bit of mayhem and ask, “Is this normal? Are boys supposed to act like this?”

      My response, “I have no idea but I’m pretty afraid that maybe this IS normal.”

  12. Your granddaughter is gorgeous and I love your excuses! I’ve read Fire and Ice and loved it! I can’t wait to read the 3 others you mentioned here.

    • Hi Jody. Thank you for mentioning my granddaughter’s beauty. LOL
      I’ve noticed myself!
      I’m so glad you love Fire and Ice. And I’m writing as fast as I can to keep up!!!

  13. Thank you, Mary, you’re family is beautiful! I imagine it was hard when the kids left the nest. But now you’re getting paid back in grandchildren, so that’s awesome! You also gave me some new books to check out. It’s those collections that sucked me in and got me hooked on historical romance. I love them!

  14. Have you decided yet about coming out to Nevada for “research?” Am sure you would love it and I think you’d enjoy our “winter” weather! We’d love to have you! Enjoy every moment! Remember, we’re in the “Bonanza” area – Tahoe and Virginia City.

  15. Mary, Yes, grandchildren are a wonderful distraction! I have an advantage in that my grandchildren only live 7 blocks away from me so I can be a part of their lives, even be grandma taxi service once in a while. But they are 10 and 8 so I miss a having a little one like your. Enjoy the Holidays with that precious little girl.

  16. Congratulations on your new granddaughter! She is so adorable I say spoil her and enjoy every minute doing it.

  17. Hey Mary! I love all your precious excuses! Your new grand daughter is so beautiful! Blessings to you and your family!

  18. Love your article about your granddaughter. I have 2 granddaughters & 2 grandsons—14, 7, 5, 5. Unfortunately they live 5 hours and 12 hours away. Give her an extra hug, they grow up so fast. Love the drawing.

    • Linda Noooooooooooooooooooooooo too far away.
      I’ve got one daughter who lives far away. I’m trying to be discrete about manipulating her to move home.
      Not sure how subtle I am. I think they’re on to me!!!!

  19. What better excuse than a adorable New granddaughter. She is so sweet. Have read most everything you’ve written and loved them all. Can’t wait to read them all. Have a blessed Thanksgiving.

  20. Mary what a beautiful family you have. I am so excited at all the new releases you’ll be having. Especially the one bringing in characters from the Husband Tree. Which I think is my alltime favorite book. These aren’t excuses. This is life, and yours looks pretty awesome. Enjoy…

    • It is awesome, Robin. I try and remind myself to STOP AND SMELL THE ROSES!
      Which brings to mind the words of a country song by Alabama.

      “I’m in a hurry to get things done
      Oh I rush and rush until life’s no fun
      All I really gotta do is live and die
      But I’m in a hurry and don’t know why.”

  21. LOL! I love your list of excuses, especially your adorable new granddaughter. I’m learning how busy launching a book can be too. I hope you’re having a blast with all of it, even if it’s all keep you busier than a bee in a wildflower farm. 🙂

    Congrats and Happy Trails!

  22. Grandchildren are fantastic, I have 3 granddaughters all teenagers now. Each stage in their lives have been special. Keep making excuses to spend time with yours.

  23. I love the pictures of your granddaughter. So very cute! I have 2 boys-ages 9 and 21 months and another one on the way due in June 2016.

  24. These all sound like legitimate excuses to me! Your newest granddaughter looks really sweet. I really enjoyed your Wild at Heart series. WITH THIS RING? has four of my favorite authors in one book so it has to be on my “wish list” (I love the subtitle). The other novella collections look pretty good too.

  25. Your family is beautiful and oh, that precious baby girl! I’m surprised you have good sense, girl! When we hold our wonderful grands, something happens to our minds. They get clouded by baby smells, baby softness, baby wrinkles and folds and working with yourself not to squeeze the handful of love too tight. Enjoy every moment you have !!!!!!

  26. You are totally forgiven, especially if I get a phone call when Katherine comes to visit so I can meet her in person!

  27. Best excuse ever, Mary!I love your novels and novellas but family out ranks everything. Enjoy your family. It may be painful for us, but we will wait!

  28. I have a new granddaughter too, Mary, so I totally understand your excuses! Mine lives far away (13 hours by car!) so I only get to see her on Skype usually! I did get to spend 5 weeks with her when she was born though! Her big sister is almost 4 and I miss the two of them SOO much – they are my only two grandchildren!!!! Thanks for your post! I LOVE, LOVE all the books coming out!!!!

  29. You have awesome excuses, and I’m thankful you have such wonderful distractions! But I sure am anxious for your newest book and many, many more!!!!!

  30. Personally, I think family excuses are the best ones! (Though, I hope my kids hold off for several more years before becoming parents and giving me the grandkid excuse.) Your grandbaby is adorable!!

    • Glenda everything in it’s own time. I was about the OLDEST first time grandma ever due to my procrastinating kids. But I know some grandmas in their 30s and that’s a little quick!

  31. What a precious excuse!! You have been a very busy person. I definitely would be visiting my grandchild too. However, my grandson lives in Japan with his parents. I will be glad when the tour of duty is over. Thank you for the chance to win your giveaway. Happy Thanksgiving

    • JAPAN!!!!!! Well, God bless him for his service to our country. I have a niece who is career Army and she’s done two tours overseas and I know the price her whole family pays for her service.
      I’m proud of your family and I sort of miss your grandson now, too!

  32. Mary what a perfect excuse as a precious new grand daughter, There is nothing like a baby in the mix to make everything better. It has been several years since I have been around a baby. I will have to say you are one busy lady to have all those books coming out. Love your excuses and thanks for sharing them with us.

    • Babies are the best. Then we watch them grow up and that’s so sweet too that you think maybe babies AREN’T the ‘best’. But then you get another baby and you’re right back to hooked on babies.

  33. wow.. busy lady! I got to spend last weekend with a grandson! Fun, fun, fun!
    I see some new books here I haven’t read yet. Love that Wilde family 🙂

  34. Oh my! What would this world be without our children and grandchildren. Your excuses are just perfect. And those books look fabulous! Would love to read them.

    • Stella, I have one free on Amazon/Barnes and Noble right now. It’s called Swept Away. Go grab a copy if you don’t have one already. Kindle/Nook books have PC/MAC/Ipad/Smart Phone apps so you don’t have to own a Kindle to get the ebook freebie!

  35. Oh I think your “excuses” are just fine! Especially the little bitty pretty one. I have 5 great-grandcooties and I can’t get enough of them. And yes, they might forget you, and might want you in a certain moment, so you have to be available!

    And I must say you have lots and lots of other stuff going on. Don’t know how you keep it all straight. Happy Holidays!

    • AW Sally! I call her my itty bitty pretty one all the time.
      And I sing as a lullaby the old Temptations song. My Girl.
      Lyrics, and sing it slow. It’s beautiful.

      I’ve got sunshine on a cloudy day.
      When it’s cold outside I’ve got the month of May.
      I guess you’d say
      What can make me feel this way?
      My girl (my girl, my girl)

      Talkin’ ’bout my girl (my girl).

  36. I can understand the excuses – at least a bit. But if you start pulling the “cow” card, I am lost. Love following your personal cow and cowboy stories and pictures on Facebook. Speaking of grandchildren, we have 13. Of these 2 are married and one soon to be married. We have 1 great-granddaughter. She was born at 26 weeks and spent about 100 days in NICU. So it was a LONG, LONG time before I could hold her.

    Best wishes and do enjoy the holidays! Love your books

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