They say if you want anything done, ask a busy person.
I smile when I hear that, because it is so true. Busy people know how to get things done. They know the value of slots of time. They can adjust and think with an organized brain.
This was ME up until five years ago when I was slammed by a blossoming career, social media and life in general.
WHERE THE CHAOS BEGAN
As I slowly morphed from being a part-time educator, teaching parenting, pediatric CPR and childbirth classes to expectant parents, to becoming a full-time romance writer, my life became a chaotic mess. I was keeping up my AHA status and my knowledge current in the pediatric field while teaching nightly classes as well as writing an average of three books per year.
When it comes to a time-suck, writing is never the problem. Writing is the joy. I will repeat that, writing is the joy. It’s the edits, Author Alterations, Art Fact Sheets, Dear Reader letters, promo, reviews, Twitter, Facebook as a whole that we are required to do that was driving me a little crazy. No, I will amend that. A LOT crazy.
That joy, and the reason I had become a writer was gone. I found myself constantly working: days, nights and weekends. I knew something had to give, and I’d hoped it wouldn’t be my sanity. I believe every writer needs a valid support system. Someone, who gets it and has your back. That was my hubby. He was ultra supportive during this time. Whenever he could, he helped me with the mechanical and technical part of duties. He and I both kept hoping that things would get better once I finished my latest contract.
He would have his wife back and I would hopefully gain my life back.
HOW IT CHANGED
Simply, I allowed myself the freedom to make valid changes in my life. I gave up teaching one of my nighttime classes and it just felt right. It was time for me to let that part of my life go. But I also did one other important thing. I began to give myself a break, mentally and physically.
In the morning, instead of heading to the computer at the crack of dawn and eating my breakfast at my desk, if I was extremely tired, I slept in. I took that time for myself and luxuriated in an extra hour or two of rest. What a concept!
I also learned to keep my finger on Delete, when an average of 120 emails arrived on my computer screen each day. (Of course, I read the important ones and support my friends and chapter mates whenever I could). I stopped saying “no” to my friends for lunch dates and I sat down at night with my hubby to watch our favorite television shows together. I won’t ever neglect my friends or family for my career again. Another thing I’d learned, that I knew in my head, but never had practiced before, was to keep my body fit. Thanks to Staness and the Menopause Makeover Challenge on Eharlequin, I began exercising and fine tuning my body on a steady and regimented basis. After a vigorous exercise, I feel better. I set aside at least 30 minutes every day to do some form of exercise.
I had always been a good time manager. I don’t waste time. But I’d realized that there wasn’t enough time in my day, for all I had taken on. I am not superhuman. Silly as it seems, I finally figured that out.
And so with that simple realization also came a deep sense of relief.
I couldn’t do it all.
I embrace that now. I prioritize. I write the best stories I possibly can and really pour my creativity into them. And I sprinkle my day with other goals. Yesterday, I sent a book off for review, today I will write 2 blogs, tomorrow I will Facebook and Twitter. and Pinterest. It works. It’s BALANCE. And I’m enjoying writing and my life again.
Is your life crazy busy? Have you found your balance yet? What ways do you do to keep everything in perspective?
Exquisite Acquisitions is available on Amazon and Barnes and Noble and in bookstores in August. Here’s a little bit about it!
Sold to the Sexy Cowboy!
For Macy Tarlington, the only good part of seeing her legendary mother’s possessions sold at auction is ogling Carter McCay, the tall Texan who buys the famous diamond ring. Even better is seeing again whne he rescues her from the paparazzi like a white knight in a Stetson.
Carter whisks her to safety at Wild River Ranch, hiding her identity by day and lusting after her by night. Yes, he’s sworn off love. But with the Hollywood runaway starring in his every fantasy, Carter may find Macy too much temptation –even for a hard-hearted cowboy.
Romantic Times Book Reviews
4 STARS**** –
EXQUISITE ACQUISITIONS (4) by Charlene Sands: After being turned down by the woman he hoped to marry, rancher Carter McKay finds himself rescuing a damsel in distress, coming to Macy Tarlington’s aid on a New York street and offering her a place to sort out her life. Macy’s famous mother left her with a wariness toward love and a chest full of jewels that Macy swears is cursed. Though neither Carter nor Macy wants a new relationship, before they know it the two are working to restore a decrepit B&B and falling in love. Even without the underlying mystery, the witty banter, well-drawn characters and satisfying conclusion will draw new fans to the Auction House series.
Reviewed By: Pat Cooper
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