Tanya Hanson: Confessions of a MOBster*

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*Mother of the Bride…seventeen days til my daughter’s wedding. 

christi-and-her-glam-glovesSince I can’t find anywhere that 17 is an unlucky number, I reckon I can regale you with wedding stuff again while I still have my nerves and my mind left. Most of my mind, that is.  And I need a chance to showcase the hit of my daughter’s recent bridal shower, the “glam gloves” sent by my filly friend Pam Crooks along with a signed copy of her latest book. I can still hear the shouts of delight bursting from the throats of sorority sisters, aunties and cousins…and even myself. You can see why! Those gloves are the cutest things ever! 

 Now for all you historians and romantics out there, here are a few more bridal tidbits to file.  

Bridal Shower.  This girly gathering owes its roots to a Dutch maiden three hundred years ago whose wealthy papa pooh-poohed her marital choice of a lowly miller. His refusal of a dowry had her friends and neighbors “shower” her with enough household goods to start life with her true love.my-bridal-shower-july-1974

 

In the 1890’s, gifts for the bride were actually placed into a Japanese parasol which was later opened over her head. Hopefully there wasn’t a cast iron frying pan or meat cleaver knife in there.

 (This pic is my friends and me, lower right, at my July 1974 shower. Talk about a vintage photograph!)   

Bridesmaids. They got their start during the bride-stealing days of the Anglo-Saxons. The gaggle of lovelies usually dressed identical to the bride even to their veils to confuse marauders and act as decoys. Later, the flock of bridesmaids was believed to ward off evil spirits who might curse the happy couple. In Greece, rather than “maidens,” tradition had brides escorted by happily-married, fertile young women whose good fortune was supposed to rub off.  

 In the good ole days of bride-stealing and kidnapping, the groom of course had to surround himself with pals ready to assist in abducting his woman. Sometimes the “groomsmen” snatched brides of their own from the herd of bridesmaids. Romantic? Can’t decide if there’s a historical romance plot in there somewhere. WDYT?

27 Dresses. Just kidding. Christi only had six to alter after the somewhat dowdy hemline caused quite a stir of frenzy recently. Fortunately my amazing sister-in-law Roberta (Christi’s aunt and godmother) successfully converted the hems bubble-style. Christi has selected yellow to acknowledge our family’s devotion to Lance Armstrong’s Livestrong crusade against cancer, and as a tribute to her dad who beat testicular cancer last year. Walking her down the aisle is going to be particularly poignant.balloon-hem

 (This is Danielle, one of the bridesmaids. Her December 2008 wedding was postponed when a California wildfire burned down her family home last fall! Favors, invitations, everything but her dress was lost. Fortunately, no one was hurt and the house is being rebuilt. But…insurance delays and her dad’s recent health scare put things on hold until early 2010.  Fortunately, her dad found out he’s going to be okay. Praise God again!)

Something old, Something new. Something borrowed, something blue. Actually, most of us recite this without the last line.     …and a silver sixpence in her shoe. 

This tradition started up in Victorian times. The bride who wore/carried these good luck tokens could expect a happy marriage.

The sixpence, a silver coin minted in Britain from 1551-1967, symbolizes the hope for financial security. For optimum good fortune, it should be worn in the left shoe. With the sixpence out of production, a copper penny is okay to use…although keepsake sixpence can be found online. Fortunately, I brought a sixpence home from a college trip to England in 1972 and wore it in my wedding shoe thirty-five Augusts ago. I will pass on my lucky sixpence and its good fortune to my daughter! 

Something old symbolizes the bride’s family roots and past history. 

Something new is for hope and optimism for a happy future and her own history. 

Something borrowed is usually an item from a happily married friend or relative. It  reminds the bride that she has loved ones to depend on. 

 

Blue has been connected to weddings for centuries. Brides in ancient Rome wore the color to symbolize love, modesty, and fidelity, and Christians long associated the color with purity, as it is the standard garb for the Virgin Mary. Blue actually was a popular wedding gown color through the 1700’s.  “Marry in blue, lover be true.” 

Young Brides, Old Wives Tales.   

    1. If you find a spider on your wedding gown, you’ll come into money. 

    2. If you see a flock of birds, your marriage will be blessed with fertility. 

     3. If it snows on your wedding day, you’ll be wealthy.

     4. If the sun is out, you’ll be happy.

     5. If you marry as the hands of the clock move up (after the half hour), you’ll have good fortune.

 

    6. If you drop the ring during the ceremony, it’s best to start the whole thing over. 

    7. If you look in the mirror before walking down the aisle, you’ll leave a part of yourself behind. 

    8.  If you cry on your wedding day, especially before the kiss, you’ll prevent tears during the marriage. 

Well, as I leave you with these pearls of wisdom, I can positively say no snow will fall on Christi’s wedding day, but I can predict the location near the beach fill have plenty of sun. 

Somebody might drop the ring, but I doubt the coordinator will let us start the whole caboodle over.

Christi will most definitely be looking in a mirror! 

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The wedding starts at 4:30…so I’m on board for the hands of the clock moving up, even if you wear a digital watch. (This antique clock was a wedding gift to my grandparents in 1917.)   

 Birds and spiders, okay. I’m a bit of a tree hugger. Just don’t poop on her dress.

  As for tears, I think they’re a given. I’ve already got handy an Irish linen hankie, a souvenir from my mom’s many travels. 

Please pass along today any pearls of wisdom, lore or old wives’ tales of your own, your hints and helps, past MOB memories, or anything you think I might start needing…on day 16.

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A California beach girl, I love cowboys and happy-ever-afters. My firefighter hubby and I enjoy travel, our two little grandsons, country music, McDonald's iced coffee, and volunteering at the local horse rescue. I was thrilled last year to receive the CTRR Award at Coffeetime Romance for Sanctuary, my tribute to my cancer-survin' hubby!

24 thoughts on “Tanya Hanson: Confessions of a MOBster*”

  1. Tanya, what a fun blog! And thank you for showing us the pic of Christi with her gloves. No excuse for a dirty house now, eh? 🙂

    Interesting about the ‘and a silver sixpence in her shoe’ phrase. Though I’ve never heard that, I do recall how some brides used to put a penny in their shoe. Gosh, I hadn’t thought of that in years, so maybe it’s not done so much anymore.

    When my Kristi got married, she carried a blue and white linen handkerchief that was once my sweet Italian grandmother’s. All my daughters used that hanky, as well as me. Wish I knew how old it was, and I’ll always treasure it!

  2. Hi Pam, thanks again for the darling gloves and for posting today. The heirloom hankie sounds just perfect.

    For her baptism, Christi wore a precious bonnet my mom got her. It’s made from a lacy hankie by a few artful stitches. The stitches are supposed to be pulled out and the hankie carried on the wedding day. But she can’t bear to “ruin” the darling little bonnet (she wants it for her own babies someday) so the florist is removing the ribbon ties and incorporating them into the bouquet. So a bit of history there.

    Thanks again, Pam! oxooxoxoxoxox

  3. What a fun and informative post, Tanya! I enjoyed every word. And I especially love that Christi chose yellow for her bridesmaids dresses to honor her dad’s victory over cancer. You must be so proud!

    Also fun to see your bridal shower pic!

  4. I’ve heard ‘put a penny in your shoe’ for that good luck thing.

    Can’t remember if I did it but I wore my sister’s wedding dress. She was married six months before me. So something borrowed. I think I did the whole thing but now I can’t remember, lost in the mists of time. I’ve been married 32 years and got married very close to the year you did, Tanya. My bridesmaids and I all had that same long, straight ‘Seventies’ hair. Parted in the middle.
    Great post.
    Beach wedding, huh? Sounds so beautiful.

  5. Hi Tanya:
    Big wave from a fellow LARAite. : ) Love the post, and I actually learned something, isn’t that good? I have a lucky sixpence, minted in 1967 and encased in a little clear plastic case. I usually keep it on my bookshelf but now that you reminded me, I’ve placed it at the base of my computer while I get my after conference submissions ready. : ) I need all the luck I can get.
    Wishing you and your daughter the very best of everything. May the day truly be magical. And congratulations again on Marrying Minda.

  6. Hi Helen, always so nice to hear from you! Yeah, I wonder if her daddy is going to remain dry-eyed. He’s not a weeper but…this is gonna be pretty special.

    Re: my own shower pic. The blonde in the back to the left of the girl wiith sunglasses on her head is my closest childhood pal. She’s in the process of moving and found/sent that picture the very day I was writing this blog! I couldn’t resist using it. She was the hostess that way and also a shower guest at Christi’s.

    oxoxoxox

  7. Hi Mary, how fun to get double-use out of that wedding gown! I’d love to see some pictures. Yeah, I had the long hair until just before the wedding, trimmed it shoulder length.

    Thanks for stopping by.

  8. Hi LARAite Robena, I think I’ll keep my sixpence handy after the wedding. It’s been in the attic all these years. I should have stuck it by my computer eons ago LOL.

    Thanks for your good wishes today and your kind words about Marrying Minda.

  9. Hi Tanya,

    As a fellow MOBster, all I can say is enjoy every moment. Nik’s been married almost a year now … where did the time go? And I’m still recuperationg 🙂

    Loved the pics of you at the shower. And Christi with the glam gloves on. Pam, you’re so talented! Oh, weddings are so much fun and such a headache at the same time!! But in a good way! 🙂

    Marrying Minda is a fun, emotional read. Everyone should run out and get a copy!!

  10. Best Wishes to Christi and Congratulations to her
    lucky groom! We wish all of you happiness and
    sunshine for the special day!

    Pat Cochran

  11. Hi Charlene, you are doing a great job of keeping me calm, having just gone through this! So glad you’ll be there on the big day. And thanks for the MM plug LOL.

    Pat…your good wishes mean the world. It’s nice to have so many cyber-friends.

    If anybody’s got a chance, I’m also featured at http://occsliceoforange.blogspot.com/ this very day, one of my RWA chapters. Newbie advice.

  12. Tanya, what an interesting bunch of wedding facts. I loved the sixpence tradition and the old wive’s tale of finding a spider on the wedding dress. I buy into everything that predicts an influx of money. LOL

    I wish you all the luck in the final stage of your daughter’s wedding. After it’s over you won’t be a MOBster anymore. Ha!

  13. Hi Linda, I also was intrigued by the tales predicting money and regretting that it doesn’t snow in August…or any time here! Thanks so much for stopping by today.

    This all reminds me I have a ring-bearer pillow to construct!

  14. Hi Tanya!

    What a lovely blog — and a beautiful daughter. Many happy wishes to you and the bride-to-be and her groom. By the way, I didn’t know you were a part of LARA. I have spoken to LARA several times.

    Anyway, great blog.

  15. Just believe everything will work out fine. My daughter got married last July 26th and although there were two or three disasters before, the actual wedding worked out perfectly except for a few minor things that could be laughed at – keep your sense of humor. Congrats to all!

  16. Hi Kay, thanks for the good wishes! I know you’re a MOBster yourself and have gone through much of the same!

    Hi Jeanne, another MOBster! Yes, I’ve been told to keep my sense of humor intact and to expect minor traumas. No one will know, right! Your congrats mean a lot!

    Thanks for stopping by today!

  17. She’s going to be a lovely bride, Tanya!

    What do they say about a tornado warning on your wedding day? lol We just celebrated #28, so I don’t really think it matters.

  18. Maid of Honor 🙂

    Hi Tracy, thanks for the compliment and for stopping by. Yikes, a tornado warning. That’s when you actually see one, right? I remember a few “watches” during college when we had to go hunker in the basement and I was scared to death anyway.

    I think a tornado warning must be a good thing! Blessed #28…and here’s to many more! oxoxox

  19. Very interesting again. I did not know the origin of a shower. I wore my mom’s old, borrowed, blue garter 38 years ago. We always said a sixpence, but not a silver sixpence. I had a penny in my shoe. Loved your shower picture!

  20. Hi Nancy, thanks so much for stopping by! I will dig out my garter for Christi as well when I get the sixpence…although it isn’t blue. The dress place made it to match my gown. I think it’s got a little blue flower applique somewhere though.

    Thanks for coming to the shower! It was a fun day, wasn’t it.

  21. What a wonderful batch of wedding lore. It is nice to know where those traditions come from. Have heard some but not all. Funny how we do things not knowing the origins or significance.
    Take a deep breath and enjoy. I’m sure the wedding will be wonderful even if a few little things are forgotten. What would life be without those little hiccups at the last minute. It adds spice and memories.

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