*Mother of the Bride…seventeen days til my daughter’s wedding.
Since I can’t find anywhere that 17 is an unlucky number, I reckon I can regale you with wedding stuff again while I still have my nerves and my mind left. Most of my mind, that is. And I need a chance to showcase the hit of my daughter’s recent bridal shower, the “glam gloves” sent by my filly friend Pam Crooks along with a signed copy of her latest book. I can still hear the shouts of delight bursting from the throats of sorority sisters, aunties and cousins…and even myself. You can see why! Those gloves are the cutest things ever!
Now for all you historians and romantics out there, here are a few more bridal tidbits to file.
Bridal Shower. This girly gathering owes its roots to a Dutch maiden three hundred years ago whose wealthy papa pooh-poohed her marital choice of a lowly miller. His refusal of a dowry had her friends and neighbors “shower” her with enough household goods to start life with her true love.
In the 1890’s, gifts for the bride were actually placed into a Japanese parasol which was later opened over her head. Hopefully there wasn’t a cast iron frying pan or meat cleaver knife in there.
(This pic is my friends and me, lower right, at my July 1974 shower. Talk about a vintage photograph!)
In the good ole days of bride-stealing and kidnapping, the groom of course had to surround himself with pals ready to assist in abducting his woman. Sometimes the “groomsmen” snatched brides of their own from the herd of bridesmaids. Romantic? Can’t decide if there’s a historical romance plot in there somewhere. WDYT?
27 Dresses. Just kidding. Christi only had six to alter after the somewhat dowdy hemline caused quite a stir of frenzy recently. Fortunately my amazing sister-in-law Roberta (Christi’s aunt and godmother) successfully converted the hems bubble-style. Christi has selected yellow to acknowledge our family’s devotion to Lance Armstrong’s Livestrong crusade against cancer, and as a tribute to her dad who beat testicular cancer last year. Walking her down the aisle is going to be particularly poignant.
(This is Danielle, one of the bridesmaids. Her December 2008 wedding was postponed when a California wildfire burned down her family home last fall! Favors, invitations, everything but her dress was lost. Fortunately, no one was hurt and the house is being rebuilt. But…insurance delays and her dad’s recent health scare put things on hold until early 2010. Fortunately, her dad found out he’s going to be okay. Praise God again!)
Something old, Something new. Something borrowed, something blue. Actually, most of us recite this without the last line. …and a silver sixpence in her shoe.
This tradition started up in Victorian times. The bride who wore/carried these good luck tokens could expect a happy marriage.
The sixpence, a silver coin minted in Britain from 1551-1967, symbolizes the hope for financial security. For optimum good fortune, it should be worn in the left shoe. With the sixpence out of production, a copper penny is okay to use…although keepsake sixpence can be found online. Fortunately, I brought a sixpence home from a college trip to England in 1972 and wore it in my wedding shoe thirty-five Augusts ago. I will pass on my lucky sixpence and its good fortune to my daughter!
Something old symbolizes the bride’s family roots and past history.
Something new is for hope and optimism for a happy future and her own history.
Something borrowed is usually an item from a happily married friend or relative. It reminds the bride that she has loved ones to depend on.
Blue has been connected to weddings for centuries. Brides in ancient Rome wore the color to symbolize love, modesty, and fidelity, and Christians long associated the color with purity, as it is the standard garb for the Virgin Mary. Blue actually was a popular wedding gown color through the 1700’s. “Marry in blue, lover be true.”
Young Brides, Old Wives Tales.
1. If you find a spider on your wedding gown, you’ll come into money.
2. If you see a flock of birds, your marriage will be blessed with fertility.
3. If it snows on your wedding day, you’ll be wealthy.
4. If the sun is out, you’ll be happy.
5. If you marry as the hands of the clock move up (after the half hour), you’ll have good fortune.
6. If you drop the ring during the ceremony, it’s best to start the whole thing over.
7. If you look in the mirror before walking down the aisle, you’ll leave a part of yourself behind.
8. If you cry on your wedding day, especially before the kiss, you’ll prevent tears during the marriage.
Well, as I leave you with these pearls of wisdom, I can positively say no snow will fall on Christi’s wedding day, but I can predict the location near the beach fill have plenty of sun.
Somebody might drop the ring, but I doubt the coordinator will let us start the whole caboodle over.
Christi will most definitely be looking in a mirror!
The wedding starts at 4:30…so I’m on board for the hands of the clock moving up, even if you wear a digital watch. (This antique clock was a wedding gift to my grandparents in 1917.)
Birds and spiders, okay. I’m a bit of a tree hugger. Just don’t poop on her dress.
As for tears, I think they’re a given. I’ve already got handy an Irish linen hankie, a souvenir from my mom’s many travels.
Please pass along today any pearls of wisdom, lore or old wives’ tales of your own, your hints and helps, past MOB memories, or anything you think I might start needing…on day 16.
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