I thought I’d take a break — a very brief break — from Native American lore to bring you news and pictures of my darling daugher’s recent “elopement.”
Originally she and her fiance were going to get married in the Islands in May. However, due to the recent financial problems in this Nation and the $700 billion economic burden that has just been foisted off on the American people, both she and her fiance decided to give their families a break by eloping. Except that they let us all know that they were eloping, and so of course both families were in attendance at their elopement. Also their best friends were there.
They were married in Vermont (my ex and I raised both our children in Vermont) on October 20th. Currently I’m in Florida on a course at my church and so I hopped in my car and drove the 1500 miles or so to Vermont — a beautiful drive, by the way, as I went by way of Highway 81, up through Virginia and Pennsylvania. In this picture, the bride is in the middle and my eldest daughter is on the left. I’m on the right in black — as we all were getting ready for the wedding.
Vermont was beautiful at this time of year. The trees were alive and screaming with color. The yellows and golds were as bright as the sun. In one place, I got lost and ended up at the Ethan Allen statue, and I was presented with color as bright as any day — and the trees lined the streets — I was entranced. The reds of the maples, the oranges and greens and browns literally scremed at you with color. Wow!
The ceremony was performed in the courthouse — it was a civil ceremony. And though it wasn’t the kind of ceremony one normally thinks of as a wedding, it was still beautiful. Made more so by our children’s concern for their families. My father was a judge and I well remember couples coming to our house in the middle of the night to be married. This reminded me of those times — but only sightly. Here is the bride and groom.
It was cool in Vermont at this time of year. The first morning I was there, I awoke to go out and run and went out into a 21 degree morning. It was invigorating, to say the least. Here is the bride and groom, coming out of the courthouse as we clapped and congratulated them. Note the bride’s high waisted wrap –doesn’t it remind you of a Jane Austin novel? So romantic.
Afterwards, we went back to the hotel — which was a Weston Hotel resort — and had a wonderful meal provided by the bride’us father (me ex) and his wife. A grand piano was also provided in the private room, since we all play the piano. But no one wanted to play — we all said we were out of practice. So I started it out, by playing rather badly I mst admit — with my right hand still healing from its earlier break in May — I found much to my chrigrin that I couldn’t even reach an octave with my right hand. But it broke the ice and my eldest daughter played, providing the bride and groom with the opportnity to dance. First it was father and bride and groom and mother dancing, but then it was the bride and groom. It ended with a beautiful round of piano playing by my ex, who brought us all to tears by playing Pacobelle’s Cannon. Again, please excuse the misspelling.
Here is the bride and groom. Aren’t they beautiful? One thing I must say. Since my darling daughter has been with this man, her life has been filled with happiness. After boyfriends who brought her to tears, or invalidated her or made her wrong, she met this man, who has brought her nothing but happiness. I think you can see that from her glow. I was also impressed with the speech by his mother, who said that since he has met my daughter, his entire life has gotten better, that she has never seen him happier. And I think that this is a very most important factor in marriage. Does one contribute to the other and make them better. Or does the relationship detract? In this case, they both compliment each other, so that together, they are more than if they were apart.
And did I mention that I am now a very proud step-grandmother? What a thrill! I hope that you’ve enjoyed my sharing this, a very important occasion in my life, with you. Yes, it was a sort of elopement, yes, it was a civil ceremony, but it was still a very beautiful ceremony, and a very beautiful day. And the bride and groom are to be congratulated on their empathy with their families, in this unstable environment of economical concern. I hope you’ll share with me many well wishes for the couple. I’d love to hear your thoughts.