Love and the Alpha Male

321111_bsilhouette-of-cowboy-at-sunset-posters.jpgAgain and again I hear this from editors—give us an alpha male hero! That’s what everybody wants these days!  Ok.  I’ll give it a shot.  Just give me some time to figure out what an alpha male is.         

In the animal world the alpha male is the wolf, hippo, baboon, elephant seal, etc.  who can beat off all the other males, get the females and become the head of the pack.  Apply that to the human race and things get a little more complicated.          

For help I turned to an article I found on line (credit to Mary Carmichael, Newsweek Web Exclusive, March 12).  The article started out to be about Elliot Spitzer,  certainly not my type.  But it went on to make some interesting points about alpha males—referred to here as “sensation seekers.”    

According to the author, “Sensation seekers crave novel and intense experiences more than other people do, and, as part of that, they tend to have many sexual partners. They get a bigger kick out of things….Sensation seekers don’t just lust after things–they take them, often disregarding the risks that block their way.  When you’re dealing with these high-level, in-your-face, go-for-everything guys, you’re dealing with people who take a lot of risks… For these types, the risk itself is part of the reward.  Breaking rules is a thrill for them…Alpha males are high on testosterone, the hormone that underlies almost all the typical traits of the politico-sexual animal: high levels of testosterone make for a high sex drive, a love of risks, aggressiveness and competitiveness. These people have a strong need to win at games, which is obviously important in power politics.  Success sends their testosterone spiraling up, while a loss brings the levels down—a phenomenon that’s been documented in the lab as well as in athletes and chess champions.”         

Sound like anyone you know?         

Alpha heroes can be compelling.  Think James Bond or Rambo.  Think of the characters John Wayne has played—pair him up with a little spitfire like Maureen O’Hara and you have pure magic.  There’s Darcy in P & P—a quiet alpha but definitely an alpha.  Matt Dillon, another quiet alpha.  Earnest Hemingway—an alpha all the way, and not always a nice one.         

I have mixed feelings about alpha men.  They’re exciting, but I don’t know how long I could live with one.   An all-out alpha man could get wearing after a while.  Kind of like having a wild stallion in the house.  After a while you’d get tired of cleaning up the mess.         

For the record, my all-time fictional dream man is Atticus Finch in To Kill a Mockingbird.  Steadfast, tender, compassionate, a man of absolute integrity and courage.  Alpha?  Hmmm.  Depends on your definition.  

What’s your take on alpha-heroes?  Who’s your favorite alpha hero from books or movies?  Is your sweetie an alpha?  I’d love to hear.

Laura Drewry Arrives Saturday!

devils_daughtersm.jpgHello darlings, guess who I see coming around the bend? Heaven’s sake, it’s Miss Laura Drewry! And she’s going to give us some good old-fashioned cowboy wisdom right here in Wildflower Junction come Saturday. All you ladies (and gents too) can come join us. I sincerely hope you do. It’ll be a fine time. 

When An Old Man Dies, A Library Burns Down

petticoat-ranch-cover-small.bmpCivil War Widows 

In Petticoat Ranch, my hero Clay fought in the Civil War as did Sophie’s first husband. Research can really lead you into fascinating areas. I saw this head line on a story the other day.

Gertrude Janeway, 93, Is Dead; Last Widow of a Union Soldier

Gertrude Grubb Janeway, age 93, died Friday Jan. 19, 2003, at her home in Blaine, Tenn. She lived in a three-room log cabin bought for her by her husband in 1927. She was the last surviving widow of a Union soldier. Her husband, John Janeway, died in 1937 at age 91.Gertrude Janeway Civil War Widow She married her husband in 1927 when she was 18 and he was 81. In an interview in 1998 she said they sparked for three years because her mother would not sign for her to marry. As a Union widow pensioner Janeway received $70 per month from the Veterans Administration until the day she died. Gertrude never remarried and talked all her life about how much she loved John. So that article led me to this one:

Alberta Martin, 97, Confederate Widow, DiesCivil War Widow Alberta Janeway

The person thought to be the last-known Confederate widow, Alberta Martin, was born Dec, 4, 1906, and died at age 97 in Alabama on May 31, 2004. In 1927, at age 21, she married William Jasper Martin, then 81. William and Alberta had one son. Mrs. Martin died nearly 140 years after the Civil War ended.Her marriage in the 1920s to Civil War veteran William Jasper Martin and her longevity made her a celebrated final link to the old Confederacy.And, do you think we’re done yet? No!

Widow recalls marrying Civil War veteran

Maudie Hopkins Civil War WidowThe publicity surrounding Alberta Martin’s death prompted relatives of Maudie Celia Hopkins of Arkansas to reveal that the 89-year-old was in fact the last civil war widow.

Hopkins married 86-year-old William Cantrell on Feb. 2, 1934, when she was 19.To me this is almost staggering…isn’t it? C’mon! It’s history come to life. Our links to the past seem so distant and, as I sit here typing on my computer, and click around on the World Wide Web–sometimes annoyed because it takes WEBSITES too long to open–I get hit with this. Someone is still alive today who was married to a Civil War veteran. In the historical western novels the Petticoats and Pistols fillies write we have to capture that long ago time. But as long as Maudie Celia Hopkins is still alive, that history is now.Who is the oldest person you know?

Any veterans in your past?

My father, Jack Moore—who never did much traveling at all until he retired, spent a year and a half in Korea. There’s traveling for you. Can your parents remember when the lights went on? My mom and mother-in-law can. Ask them about it. You can see the amazement in their eyes at the miracle of an electric light bulb. At church one day someone mentioned WWII and I asked the lady who brought it up, ‘Did your husband go to war?’ She said, “Everybody went.”

I remember someone saying Laura Ingalls Wilder came west on a wagon train and lived to see a rocket launched into space. It’s just not that long ago.

Tell me what the oldest person you know lived through. World War II? The Dust Bowl? The Depression? And if you don’t know the answer to that, go talk to them. Have you ever heard the saying,

“When an old man dies, a library burns down.”

There is a book in everybody’s story, and a library in an old person’s story.

Who’s the oldest person you know? Tell me about your own living history.

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Thanks for a Great Day blogging and Goodnight

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What wonderful comments we had today.  I would like to personally thank everyone who came in and talked with me today about research.  Specifically I’d like to thank:  Elizabeth Lane, Mary Connealy, Linda Broday, Joanne Sundell, Patricia Cochran, Virginia H., Estella, Lori Barnes, David Ziff and Stacey Kayne!

Have a super evening and may tomorrow be wonderful!

Research — Pain in the @#%@# or a little bit of heaven?

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Here we are at the end of March and I hope that March is going out like a lamb for you.  We’ve had a record winter all across the country, apparently, with heavy rains and snows that are hitting record highs in some parts of the country.   So before we begin our topic today, let me extend a wish that March will hold true to form and “go out like a lamb.”

mag_item1.jpgThere are many would-be historical authors out there who might grace our world with their voices, who yet aren’t doing so because they find the subject of research daunting.  So I dedicate this blog today to all those (including me at one point in my life) who have looked upon research as “beyond them.”  In the hopes of making this easier, here are a series of 5 lessons on research:

group-11.jpgLesson #1:  Do you have friends or acquaintances who tell you their problems from time to time — or tell you their adventures?  Have you ever gone to a dance, a bar,  an opera, a play?  Ever had tea with the elderly lady next door?  Did you know that this is all research?  Whenever I’m yearning for the solution to that next scene, one of the first things that I realize I have to do is go out and live.  A very wise writer once said that the whole world is a stage.  It’s also research material.

costa_rica_trip.jpgLesson #2:  Vacations.  Okay so I cheated a little and chose a picture with a hunky guy on it — but it’s a beautiful picture of a waterfall, too, isn’t it?  Did you notice or couldn’t you drag your attention away from the “center” of attraction?  Okay, all that said, vacations are great for research.  Want to write about the Old West, but live on the East Coast?  Convince your husband to take that vacation to the Old West instead of to that ballgame in Chicago.  There is nothing like vacations for research.  Because I write Native American Historical Romance, my husband and I usually vacation on a reservation.  We even honeymooned on the Blackfeet reservation.  So when you think vacation, think research.

imagestht-touch-of-mink.jpgLesson #3:  Do you like to watch movies?  Like to turn TV to that favorite channel?  One of the first things I do when I’m researching a book is to rent movies that cover the topic that I’m trying to write about.  For instance, in the book, THE LAST WARRIOR — a Berkley March 2008 release — the setting for the book is Buffalo Bill’s Wild West show.  Imagine my delight when I discovered there were not on stacks of books with pictures in them, including his original schedules, there were movies taken of the show itself.  Paul Newman even starred in a movie about Buffalo Bill — can’t recall the name of that movie — but all this supplied a visual reference that was invaluable when writing this book.  Now you have to be careful,  because Hollywood versions of events aren’t always accurate historically.  But the visuals should not be overlooked as important.

cattle-drive.jpgLesson #4:  Experience.  If you’re writing about cows, there’s nothing better than going out and looking at cows.  If you’re writing about a cattle drive, there’s nothing better than going out and going on a cattle drive.  The next book that I’m writing (which is due to my publisher very soon) is about the Iroiquois.  Not only have I rented books from the library — which is usually the first place I go to for research — but in one scene there is a tree that plays a dominate role.  In order to visualize this more exactly, I got in my car and drove around the countryside until I found the tree that would be a perfect tree for my scene.  Well, not only was it important to see the tree, but I got out of the car, went and touched the tree, smelled the tree, and listened to it as it moved in the breeze.  When researching, there is nothing like real experience to bring your story to life.

adam-beach.jpgLesson #5:  Know what you know.  Okay, I admit the picture doesn’t go with the title.  But this is one of the handsomest Indians I’ve ever seen.  Be still my heart.  Okay.  Know what you know.  Anyone can write anything about anything.  That doesn’t always mean it’s true.  Know your source of information.  If it seems too sensational, or too unlikely, check other sources before you trust that information.  This is particularly important in researching Native America.  Many of the writers of Native Americans in our past have been, not Native Americans, but settlers, some of whom held prejudices stretching back generations.  Some of these writers even imbued their own unworthy characteristics onto a people who did not deserve them.  One of the best examples of this that I know of is that pertainging to the Native American attitude toward women.  Did you know that in most American tribes (not all of course) that the women held the balance of power in the tribe?  Did you know that the Iroquois could not take a move without the elder women’s approval?  That it was the elder women who could make or break those men?  This is true not only with the Iroquois, but with the Crow Indians, the Navajo — even the fearful Sioux traced their lineage back not on their father’s side, but their mother’s side.  And yet the stigma remains to this day that the “squaw” was misused and abused.  While there might have been isolated cases of this, it is one of those facts that is simply not true — not as a whole.  In an early meeting between an Eastern Indian tribe and the white settlers, the Indians asked the settlers, “Where are your women?  Where is your heart?”  It was unreal to the Indian that the white people might contemplate making treaties without the heart of the tribe being represented.  So this is an important point and is why I’ve listed it last.  Know your sources of information.  Know what you know.  If it seems too critical, too sensational or simply doesn’t ring true to what you know to be, go elsewhere, look elsewhere and remember, simply because it’s written down by someone doesn’t make it true.

 lastwarrior.jpgred_hawk_s_woman1.jpgWell, that’s all for today.  I’ve covered a few tips on research.  Do you know any more?  Or more importantly, what is your experience with research — is it a pain in the @#$@# or is it more like a little heaven — some thing that might actually spark the fires of imagination?  What is your experience?  And don’t forget I have two books out on the stands right now.  RED HAWK’S WOMAN, which was released in May of last year and THE LAST WARRIOR, which has just been released.  If you don’t see them on the bookstand, please ask your bookseller to order it in for you.

So come on in and let’s chat.

Pamela Thibodeaux’s Drawing Winners Announced!

tempered-hearts.gifHope EVERYONE had a BLESSED and Happy Easter and/or Weekend.
 
Thank you for taking the time to stop by and chat with me.
 
I’ve picked 2 winners of a pdf of Tempered Hearts!
 
Stacey Kayne and Tanya Hanson please email me at: pthib07@hotmail.com and I’ll send your copy.
 
Thanks again, Ladies.

Take care, stay in touch, God Bless and remember: When the going gets tough, the tough get on their knees.

Pamela S. Thibodeaux
“Inspirational with an Edge!”

Pamela S Thibodeaux with a favorite topic: Oh, Those Cowboys!

pamela_s_thibodeaux.jpgMy love affair with cowboys began before my interest in the male species developed. In all actuality, infatuation with cowboys grew out of my love for horses; a love that began before I could walk. Combine a love for horses with a love for reading and you wind up with a cowboy fanatic. After all, a cowboy without a horse is not really a cowboy, now is he?

 

Hi! My name is Pamela S Thibodeaux. I write “Inspirational with an Edge!” romantic fiction and I’d like to tell you a little about my favorite cowboys, but, before we get into the cowboys, let me tell you about the setting for my ‘Tempered’ series.

 

logo1-bandera.gifSelf proclaimed as the “Cowboy Capital of the World” Bandera, Texas is one of the most visited cities in the United States where tourism is concerned. Located fifty miles north/west of San Antonio, Bandera County is dotted with working ranches as well as dude ranches. The town itself is pretty and quaint, the people are friendly and the décor doesn’t appear to have changed much since its inception in 1852. What better place to set a series of contemporary cowboy stories than in a West-Texas town which is stuck somewhere in time between two centuries?

 

One of my favorite childhood memories is when my grandparents took me with them to Bandera to visit a family friend. The thing I remember the most (other than the horses) is when we sat on the porch in the evenings, counted stars, and listened to the coyotes.

 

Now about those cowboys…..

tempered-hearts.gifCraig Harris, owner/operator of the Rockin’ H Ranch in Bandera, Texas tops the list in Tempered Hearts, book 1 of the series. Mix an arrogant, chauvinistic ranch owner and a feisty veterinarian and you get a recipe for disaster…or a flaming love affair.

 

Blurb: Rancher Craig Harris and veterinarian Tamera Collins clash from the moment they meet.  Innocence is pitted against arrogance as tempers rise and passions ignite to form a love as pure as the finest gold, fresh from the crucible and as strong as steel.  Thrown together amid tragedy and unsated passion, Tamera and Craig share a strong attraction that neither accepts as the first stages of love.  Torn between desire and dislike, they must make peace with their pasts and God in order to open up to the love blossoming between them.  It is a love that nothing can destroy when they come to understand that only when hearts are tempered, minds are opened and wills are softened can man discern the will of God for his life. 

Next in line, Dr. Scott Hensley. More than a cowboy, Scott is the ultimate cowboy doctor and the perfect hero to heal the battered heart of heroine Katrina Simmons in book 2, Tempered Dreams. Although Scott is raised in Bandera, TX, this story takes place in Lafayette, Louisiana where he moved after the death of his wife and parents. His life-long friendship with Craig Harris–as well as the question as to whether or not the two are actually blood relatives–keeps the connection alive.

 

Blurb: Dr. Scott Hensley (introduced in Tempered Hearts) has built a wall around his heart since the death of his wife and parents.  Katrina Simmons is recovering from scars inflicted on her as a battered wife.  Can dreams be renewed and faith strengthened?  Can they find joy and peace in God’s love and in love for one another? 

 

tf-cover.jpgThird in line is Stanley Morrison, a horseman with the unique, God-given talent to pick, break and train horses into loyal creatures. His subtle, gentle approach can tame the wildest of beasts but can he prove himself worthy and gain the acceptance of wealthy ranch owner Craig Harris while winning the hand of his daughter? Find out in Tempered Fire, book 3.

 

Blurb: Amber Harris is a good girl on the brink of womanhood. Stanley Morrison is a young man at the start of his life. For each other, they have always felt the fireworks that two people in love should feel. But the questions about his past, his pride, and Amber’s father might be the end of what could be a strong relationship. As the two try to protect their budding romance, some unlikely but powerful forces conspire to keep them apart. Will they survive the wishes of everyone around them with their relationship intact?

 

Last but certainly not least is All-Around-Cowboy, Ace Harris. The only son of Craig and Tamera Harris, Ace is more than a cowboy; he’s a champion bull rider. But Ace is determined not to fall in love. The death of his mother leaves a hole in his heart and emptiness in his soul. Along comes Lexie Morgan (Scott & Katrina’s adopted daughter) who thinks rodeo cowboys have “rocks for brains and a death wish for a soul.” Can these two young people who clash from the onset learn to trust in the healing power of God and find love and happiness amidst tragedy and grief? Find out in Tempered Joy, book 4.

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Tempered Hearts, Tempered Dreams & Tempered Fire are available now in Ebook and Print from Com Star Media, LLC.

Tempered Joy will be released this year.

Well folks, now that you know about 4 of my favorite cowboys, I’d love to hear more about yours!

Until later remember….only when hearts are tempered, minds are opened and wills are softened can man discern the will of God for his life.

Pamela S Thibodeaux 

“Inspirational with an Edge!”

PS: One lucky commenter will receive a .pdf of Tempered Hearts, book 1 in the series!

BRIDE & Bunny Winner

Stacey KayneThank you to everyone who stopped in to share their Easter memories and traditions.  I truly enjoyed reading every post and appreciate that so many took the time to take part.  For anyone needing to draw random numbers, I used this great site: http://www.mdani.demon.co.uk/para/random.htm  You plug in the number range, and it gives you random numbers!  Four have been drawn….BRIDE & Bunny

 

 

It must be true what they say, the Early Bird gets the worm, ‘er, book *g* 

 Congratulations to Majolein!!!  

You’ve won the spring butterfly bunny, a signed copy of BRIDE OF SHADOW CANYON, a GUNSLINGER’S UNTAMED BRIDE beaded bookmark and postcard!    

Runner-up winners for the specially beaded bookmarks and postcards for THE GUNSLINGER’S UNTAMED BRIDE are: 

Karin Tillotson   ~   Janet  R.   ~  Tanya Hansen

  

CONGRATULATIONS!!!

 

 

Please email your snail-mail address to: stacey@staceykayne.com

 

Thanks again to all who added to the fun memories!!!

 Happy Easter Blessings!  

More than Easter bunnies
And chocolate eggs galore
Is the cross of Calvary
The sacrifice of our Lord
For Jesus is the reason
We all can celebrate
And come to Him to freely receive
His love and saving grace
©
By M.S.Lowndes

Pamela Thibodeaux Here Tomorrow!

tempered-hearts.gifTalented author, Miss Pamela Thibodeaux will be here tomorrow to talk about her favorite subject– cowboys. Ah can’t hardly wait. We’ll have more fun than the law allows. When a bunch of us ladies get together to talk about men, it’s a regular hen party. Everyone is welcome to join us. Don’t forget now. Tomorrow is the day. Mark it on your calendar.

The Easter Bonnet

Stacey Kayne

In the 1800’s bonnets were all the Bonnetfashion rave and big business. Every town, big or small, had a milliners shop lined with hats and filled with bins with flowers, ribbons and other haberdashery.  While the hat fad has died out here in the US, Easter still creates a boom in bonnet sales, and you can find Easter Bonnet decorating contests all over the states.  It’s a fun tradition for welcoming in a new spring, but there is more to Easter bonnets than ribbons and frills.  Spring Bonnet

Easter is a time of spiritual rebirth for the devote, and a turning of the seasons, when new growth immerges from the dormant winter soil, flowers blooming, nature bursting to new life.  The Easter bonnet symbolizes this cycle, its usually rounded shape representing the sun, and the colorful trimmings of flowers, leaves and ribbons a symbol of the fresh new life of the new season.    Bonnets

A website I visited (couldn’t find the link) stated that after the Civil War ended Easter was declared the “Sunday of Joy” and mothers and daughters who’d been in mourning for so long, shed their dark attire and celebrated in bright dresses and colorful bonnets, and competitions were held for the most festive bonnets.  

Growing up I always looked forward to a new Easter outfit, and sometimes a bonnet. Easter BonnetMy childhood outfits were usually white with bright pinks, oranges, greens and yellows—I’m recalling quite a bit of plaid.  Living in California, a new swimsuit was always in my basket—and Easter meant our first jump into the pool—and our teeth were usually chattering after ten minutes or so. This year I won’t be jumping into any pools (my boys have already been asking—ah, the thick skin of youth!), but I have a straw bonnet with a pink flower on the back. 

How about you?  Any bonnet traditions in your home growing up?BRIDE & Bunny 

In the spirit of Easter, this spring butterfly bunny will personally deliver a signed copy of BRIDE OF SHADOW CANYON to one lucky poster, along with a GUNSLINGER’S UNTAMED BRIDE beaded bookmark and postcard.  Three runner-up winners will receive a GUNSLINGER beaded bookmark and postcard. 

Wishing everyone a Joyous Spring and Happy Easter!