Old Feuds and New Loves…

 

This is a win it before you can buy it kind of day.

I have a wonderful new Love Inspired Western due to release next month and the members of the Love Inspired Book Club (through Reader’s Service) already have this book and I’m so glad that these thousands of early readers are loving it…

It’s a beautiful story. The one we’ve been waiting for, the third Fitzgerald sister has come to Idaho and she doesn’t come meek and mild.

No, ma’am.

Charlotte Fitzgerald may have been raised as a cossetted little Southern Belle but she’s hit the wall now that her no-good father stranded his daughters with no money, no jobs and a tractor load of debt… not to mention he kind of ran the family’s good name through a wood chipper, then a meat grinder for good measure…

But Charlotte’s a game one. She’s finished veterinary school with an internship in horse care and she’s been raised around Fitzgerald horses from the cradle. If there’s one thing Char knows, it’s horses… and now she knows how to provide their medical care, so that’s a big plus in a northern region that’s embracing all kinds of new ranches, including her uncle’s multi-million dollar operation that she’ll get a part of if she can work from the ranch for one year.

One year is nothing to Char… she’s ready to spread her wings and fly with her brand new (and heavily mortgaged) mobile veterinary van, the likes of which Shepherd’s Crossing has never seen… but not everyone who’s taken to horses takes to Fitzgeralds and when Charlotte is called in to pass judgment on a group of badly neglected horses… and disagrees with the older, established vet in the area… she sets herself up for a fight. And when the handsome Native American horse breeder agrees with her, and saves a horse his family shares a bad history with, the stakes get higher.

Trust doesn’t come easy to Char… And honesty is clutch with Isaiah so can he see the past for what it is before it ruins the present?  And is Char willing to give him a second chance after all she’s been through?

 

This is a great story of two strong people with vigorous roots and how sometimes those roots can twist and turn the wrong way, strangling the tree… but with the right care and trimming, even the threatened tree can thrive.

 

(Sorry, we’re having technical difficulties, the picture comes through as broken no matter which one I use or where I put it… silly blog! A bit temperamental today, I’d say! Here’s a link so you can see this great cover: LINK TO HEALING THE COWBOY’S HEART! )

 

Does forgiveness come easy to you? Or do you have to dig deep to move beyond things?

Give me a comment below and let’s talk grudge-holding and forgiveness. I came from a long line of grudgeholders on the Herne and Logan sides of the family, and those folks made the Hatfields and McCoys look like Mr. Rogers Neighborhood… so you know what I’m talking about!

I don’t hold grudges. It’s like the most unhealthy thing you can do, it’s so destructive to relationships but mostly to us. To our hearts, our souls, our mental health. Forgive and move on…

Life’s too short to be a tempest in a teapot!

Ruth Logan Herne
Multi-published, bestselling, award-winning author Ruth Logan Herne lives on a small farm in Western New York surrounded by grown kids, cute grandkids, cats, dogs, chickens, frogs, toads and snakes. That's why writing Westerns doesn't scare her. Not one smidge. Because she's surrounded by critters of all sorts, and has been known to teach lessons on snakes as available... She started writing Westerns by accident/invitation, and L-O-V-E-D it... matched with her love for both historicals and contemporaries, Ruthy's working on a new Western series for Love Inspired, New England mysteries for Guideposts and her historical Westerns for the indie market in 2018. She loves God, her family, her country and absolutely, positively loves what she does!

29 Comments

  1. Good Morning Ruth- Great question. I try to forgive others who have wronged me, but depending on the situation sometimes I have to admit, I have to dig deep. Other times it just rolls off my back. I’ve learned during my sobierty that I have to just give it to God and forgive those who have hurt me. It’s really been eye opening that when I do that, I receive peace.
    Thanks for the great blog.
    Happy Early Mother’s Day to you and all the ladies here at P & P.

    1. Tonya, good morning! And I’m working on mailings today and your name is on the list from a few weeks ago! YAY!!!!!

      I am in total agreement with you. My parents didn’t live sober until I was in my thirties. I truly never knew them sober as a child… so it was a true pleasure to meet the real people within as a grown woman with kids of my own… now that didn’t make my dad nicer… he wasn’t a kindly person, he was harsh and opinionated and that’s not fun drunk or sober! But… my kids only got to see the good side of him because that’s how I wanted it. Forgive. Forget. Move on… and leave the past where it belongs even though we know it does color us… and that’s okay. We create our own diversity.

  2. I almost always forgive forget and move on although sometimes I have to dig long and hard but once I do I am over it

    1. Glenda, that’s solid right there. Getting over it is huge… because otherwise we’re not really moving on.

      But it’s okay to let things smarten us up so we’re not fooled or used. That’s a mighty fine line, isn’t it?

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    I can forgive but I cannot forget. Trust does not return easily.

    1. That’s an honest and heartfelt assessment.

      I don’t think any of us really forget… I think it’s more sticking it into a box, slapping a label on it, and getting on with life. And you’re right… trust doesn’t return easily. That’s a premise we all recognize and one a lot of authors use in books. That and self-forgiveness because it’s always hard to forgive ourselves for being rash or foolish or downright stupid… SIGH….

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    Great blog and your book sounds wonderful! Horses, a Native American, a strong willed woman, how could I not love this book!?!?

    I honestly probably forgive a little too quickly. However, sometimes when I do think I’ve forgiven someone entirely something may happen that pulls to the surface a little bit of a grudge. Life is too hard without holding grudges and not forgiving others.

    1. Agreed 100%… but I do the same thing sometimes and then my kids will roll their eyes and say “But we told you so…”

      CYNICS!!! 🙂 They are a good balance to my Pollyanna-loving mindset. With a strong dash of snark!!!!

      And yes, I loved the components of this story!!!! And the conflict. Family vs. family….. oh land-o-goshen, that’s as old as time and just as workable today!

  5. I’ve tried through life to forgive but my problem is I bury the pain . I know in the end I just hurt myself, it’s better to just move on, sometimes
    Easier said than done.

    1. RoseAnn, you’re right. It’s not easy. And suffering in silence or burying the pain is something we all do at times… but it erupts at the worst possible time, doesn’t it? And then there we are, ready to blow like a volcano.

      It is easier said than done. Absolutely.

  6. I try to forgive, but sometimes it’s is really a struggle for me.

    1. I hear you…. that’s where prayer reminds me. God’s words. The Lord’s Prayer… ah, that’s a clincher, right there. “Thy will be done, on Earth as it is in heaven. Give us this day our daily bread and forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us…”

      He put it there on purpose, I expect, so that stubborn folks like me would get it. That he wants us to forgive. To be gracious. To be loving.

      It makes perfect sense, right? But it’s hard because we are quite human… and He is God.

      But it’s a good goal to strive for. And for selfish reasons, it makes us feel good…. So much better than when we harbor anger and ill will.

      1. Thank you. I always need these reminders.

  7. Weather I forgive or not depends on the circumstances.Forgive, maybe. forget,no.

    1. You just gave me a great character set up for a book because I think we’ve all met that hard line one time or another.

      Thank you for your honesty, Estella!!!

  8. Ooh, sounds like a humdinger of a good book! I come from a very stubborn family and admit to holding grudges. Forgiveness is hard but forgetting never really happens for me. I pray for help in this area quite a bit!! On the other hand, not much offends me, so it has to be a good one for me to hold onto. Good question.

    1. Oh, Susan, those stubborn families set the tone, don’t they? That’s when I decided to break with tradition and have an open-door policy and not hold grudges. I saw what it did to my parents and siblings, my grandpa who had to sneak food over to us when my father wasn’t home… and how that food helped to keep us from going hungry when my parents were so absent from our lives.

      I think we’d need a hard-drive eraser to really forget things. Like Bleach-Bit, to wipe a server. 🙂 Maybe it should be forgive and don’t dwell… the dwelling is what drags at folks.

      Moving on and planting a smile on our faces… much healthier!!!

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    I believe that I’ve gotten better at not holding grudges. Age has a way of mellowing a gal! I also keep reading about a guy who taught forgiveness and I’ve decided that if it’s good enough for Jesus…..

    1. Exactly! I see folks who mellow as they mature and some who dig their heels in harder, which is why it’s tricky to get the right mix of people at a nursing home or assisted living because all of a sudden birds of very opposite feathers are living in the room next door!!!! OY VAY!!!!!

  10. I always forgive but I don’t always forget things that happen they are usually in the back of my mind so will have some trust issue after.

    1. I think that’s a real fair assessment. Thank you, my quilting friend!

  11. I actually am a bit of both . I definitely can hold a grudge but other times I forgive easily. I believe it depends on the situation. I do always pray to be a person who can forgive but I must admit it doesn’t always happen .

    1. Renee, you are delightfully honest. I love this… and it does depend sometimes. You know I love the show Call the Midwife and there is always a thread of forgiveness or understanding and compassion during the show… I think every single episode has made me cry at some point. Those babies!!!!

      I know it’s very hard for parents to forgive people who hurt their children…

      Just like folks have a hard time forgiving God if they lose a child…

      Sometimes we just need someone or something to blame. We are human, after all.

  12. welcome Ruth. This is a nice cover. And this story just sounds like it has all kinds o emotions running through it. My mom was a grudge holder. I watched this and didnt like it. For me, my whole life it was easy to forgive someone. So I came up with this idea for myself that if I couldnt forgive someone right then and there, it would be done with in a few days. This has really lightened the load for me so many times. My mom held a grudge against my husband for 30 years. A week before she died she asked for his forgiveness and he gave it. To see the difference in mom after my husbands forgiveness was amazing. We taught our two kiddos that holding a grudge was not healthy (and yes we used my mom as an example with her permission). So today they try to forgive as soon as possible.

    1. Lori, what a beautiful story. So much time lost when folks hold grudges, but what a great example you’ve set for your kids… and using that old feud as an example.

      30 years…

      That’s the kind of grudge-holder my father was, and he was kind of proud of it. Although I think ten years was his record…. But oh my stars, so much time and life and love gone to waste.

      Lori, thanks for sharing this!

  13. Hello Ruthie! For me forgiveness is an area in which I struggle. With His grace I can let offense and hurt go.

    1. Caryl, it doesn’t come easy, does it? I love that you brought grace into it. With that, so much more becomes possible!

  14. It takes awhile for the raw hurt to cool. I can then forget and forgive. Just do not hurt my babies (in their 40’S). Hurt them, and run.

    1. Oh, I love the Tiger Mama in you, Jerri! 🙂 I think we all recognize that reaction, LOL! And the gift of time can be so beneficial to grief… loss… and forgiveness.

      I love a good story that shows that.

      Time heals. Even if it’s cliche, time heals… and sometimes we just need to be patient.

      That raw wound takes some time to heal, doesn’t it?

      And then sometimes we look back and realize the whole thing was downright stupid…

      At least I’ve faced that reality more than a few times!

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