Weddings and Memories


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Nothing makes my heart melt quite like weddings. I ALWAYS cry. There’s something about two people starting this new life together. They’re full of hopes and dreams, unable to see the trials and hurdles to jump over ahead. But I know they’ll be there.

Getting married was serious business with me.

M&R2I’ve been married twice and both husbands have now passed over.

The first time was a private ceremony with a preacher. No guests. The second was at the Justice of the Peace. So I don’t know anything about being married in a huge church with hundreds (often thousands) of guests except through my oldest daughter. This is a picture of her with her new hubby.

My parents married during the Depression on April 14, 1934 at the JP. They were homeless and living in a migrant camp. Mama had to borrow a pair of shoes from one of the women because she didn’t own any and she wore an old dress. Daddy wore overalls.

They faced hard times aplenty. But they dreamed of owning a real house someday.

It took them seventeen years.

Though the doctors told my daddy he was sterile from having rheumatic fever when he was a boy, they had a baby girl two years after tying the knot and went on to have five more. One was stillborn. (In the lineup, I was kid #5.)

Twice a Texas BrideIn my newest, TWICE A TEXAS BRIDE, Rand Sinclair and Callie Quinn married the first time so they could keep an orphaned baby. Callie borrowed a dress from Delta Dandridge who married Cooper Thorne in the previous book.

Neither Rand or Callie voiced love for each other, though they had it tucked deep in their hearts.

Callie made it clear she wouldn’t sleep in his bed, but Rand made her promise to kiss him each night before they went to their separate rooms.

They married again at the end of the book for real in front of lots of guests and the three children who made up their patchwork family.

Now, I’d like to hear about your wedding tales (either yours or someone else’s.) I’ll give away one copy (any format) of either book in my Bachelors of Battle Creek series.

And don’t forget…Book 3 of the series- FOREVER HIS TEXAS BRIDE – will be out on December 1 of this year! I’ve saved the best for last!

Linda Broday
I live in the Texas Panhandle where we love our cowboys. There's just something about a man in a Stetson that makes my heart beat faster. I'm not much of a cook but I love to do genealogy and I'm a bit of a rock hound. I'm also a NY Times & USA Today bestselling author of historical western romance. You can contact me through my website and I'd love to connect with you on Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest and more. HAPPY READING!
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38 Comments

  1. I have never had a big wedding. I never had a bunch of friends and families were fairly small. But both time were in a church. Nothing really extravagant. Both were fairly simple.

    1. Janine, spending a lot of money doesn’t guarantee love or happiness or a lasting marriage. I wish couples would realize this. Some spend thousands of dollars for that one day. They could put that money on a house or in savings or buy something they really need. They go into debt right off.

      Thanks so much for stopping by. I’ve put your name in the drawing. Good luck!

  2. I didn’t have a big wedding either. We could barely come up with the money to pay for the license. My daughter had a big wedding and when she asked her father why he didn’t complain about the cost, he said, “This is the wedding your mother never had.”

    1. Hi Margaret…..Thanks for liking my blog. As I told Janine, a big fancy wedding doesn’t guarantee love or happiness. You’re married just the same. I see no use in going into debt just for that one day, that one moment. Even if we’d had the money, I still would’ve done things the same way.

      I hope your day goes well and brings happiness in some way!

  3. What a tremendous tribute to love your parents left you Linda! I have a little quote in my “keeper” journal that reminds me of your folks. I don’t know the source–I just wrote it down because I loved what it said:

    “‘I’ll catch you–Jump!!’ A marriage says you’ll be there to catch each other.”

    Your parents certainly did that!

    1. Hi Kathryn…….Thanks for the comment. I’m glad you liked my blog. I cry every time I think of my parents and how they carved a life from nothing. Their love stood the test of time. They were married for 49 years and weathered all the trials that came, side by side, standing tall.

      I love that quote! I may steal it. That was my parents and my marriages. In those final horrible days with my last husband and we knew death was near, his only thoughts were of me. He wasn’t afraid of dying, his concern was leaving me and how I’d make it with my health problems. I was really fortunate to have a love that withstood so many challenges.

      Big hugs! Have a great day.

  4. I am that old saying ” Always the bridesmaid, never the bride”.. but that is okay… I have been in some wonderful weddings. Two were my cousin’s. They were both beautiful days. My oldest cousin would have been married 40yrs this September, her husband passed away 5yrs ago and my other cousin, the youngest will be married 25 yrs in September.. They both had three children, Trish a girl and two boys and Kelly-Ann 3 girls. I am privileged to be a part of both their celebrations… and their children’s lives.

    1. Good morning Kathleen O…….Thank you for coming to read my wedding blog. It sounds like you have a very happy life with your cousins and their families. That’s what we have to do. Find a place to fit in and call home. I’m really glad you have them. I’ll bet you made a very beautiful bridesmaid!

      I hope you enjoy your day! I’ve entered you in the drawing. Good luck!

  5. My mother was a Texas Bride. Not born in the state but raised there.

    1. Good Morning Kim…….Thanks for coming by! It’s great seeing you. I’m glad you liked my blog. I’m sure your mother made a beautiful bride. And she raised a good daughter. I’m sure you’re very lovely. AND you love romance! That’s a plus.

      Have a wonderful day! 🙂

  6. We has a small wedding, family and just a few friends. The old saying…”my knees were knocking” fit my hubby perfectly. I didn’t have a clue as I was floating on air that night but he said he was afraid the guests could hear his knees since they were knocking so hard. Needless to say, he made it through the ceremony just fine and we will celebrate our 40th anniversary in October!

    1. Hi Melanie! Thanks for coming. How funny about your husband. It could’ve been worse. I’ve seen some grooms faint during the ceremony. It’s pretty scary stuff. I was scared to death both times. The first go ’round I had no idea what being married was like and if I could do. I didn’t see myself as particularly strong back then. The second time, I was scared because I could already see the challenges that lay ahead of us. My second husband had been married twice before so he didn’t have the best track record. I guess third time is a charm. It worked out.

      Congrats to you on making 40 years! I’ve entered you in the drawing.

  7. I think small weddings are best. IMO. too much money is spent on the day and not time communicating about marriage itself. I have both books so please don’t enter me in today’s drawing.

    1. Hi Anon…..thanks for coming. Great to see you. You and I are in agreement. A big wedding is a waste of money. When my daughter in the picture above got married the first time at 18, we couldn’t afford much. We found a dress in JC Penny on the clearance rack for $10. It was white satin and it looked a lot like a wedding dress. That marriage failed. Husband was a cheater. This time she has a great guy so she wanted something a little fancier. They paid for everything themselves. But….it snowed 6 inches the night before and just about shut down the town. Here in Texas people panic (silly I know) when we occasionally get that much. The flowers didn’t come nor the cake. It was a mess. But she looked gorgeous and laughed about it all.

      Have a wonderful day, my dear!

  8. Hi Linda, what beautiful family history you shared. Our wedding was big, nothing as fancy as today’s, but still pretty elaborate because my mom was a war bride with no fancy dress and only her mom in attendance. When our daughter married six years ago, I admit there was no holds barred and no expense spared…just the year before her dad had beat cancer and he wanted to spoil her and she wanted to celebrate! She did a “Livestrong” yellow theme.

    Me, the first wedding I was ever bridesmaid in–a hot July day in Arkansas, mycollege roommate–I passed out at the end of the ceremony. Sheesh.

    1. Hi Tanya…….Thanks, I’m glad you enjoyed my family history. I’m so proud of my parents and the fact they came from nothing and created an amazing life. It’s people them that I model my characters after. They were strong, determined people and they loved us kids so much.

      How funny about you passing out at your roommate’s wedding. LOL But that heat will sure make that happen. I’m sure you were totally embarrassed though.

      I remember your daughter’s wedding. You shared pictures. It was just beautiful and she made a stunning bride. I’m sure she was extra thankful to have her dad there.

      Have a wonderful day!

  9. My oldest daughter just got married last month. This was her second marriage – the first lasted less than 2 yrs. He was definitely the wrong guy. But they had a typical type wedding with about 100 guests. This time she got married out of state in Disney with 15 close family members and it was really magical. It’s so wonderful to see her so happy!

    1. Hi Catslady…….Thanks for coming! I’m glad your daughter got her happily ever after. Sometimes girls have to kiss a few frogs before they find the prince. How romantic to get married at Disneyland! That would be so special. I’m sure it was magical. Congrats to you, as mother of the bride!

      I’ve entered you in the drawing. Have a wonderful day. 🙂

  10. i got married the first time in a small church,,wasnt big ,,i was 17yrs old,,i was married to him for 30yrs,,they were not good ones,,i met my second husband on line in a internet chat room msn 4o’s,,we actually met in person at a chat meet in NC 14yrs ago,,2 yrs to the day we met we married at a small church in NC with all our Chat friends present from all over the country and Canada,,and our real life families were there too,it wasnt really big maybe 50-75 ppl.but it was very different

  11. Hi Vickie……Thank you so much for coming. I appreciate it. I’m so very happy for you that you found the love of your life. It’s just a shame that you had to go through a horrible time before and that you stayed with him so long. I guess that’s sometimes the way of it. We have to learn to find strength inside us before we can do what we must. Wishing you so much love and happiness, my friend.

  12. My oldest son is getting married on August 1. Right now I am focused on planning the rehearsal dinner and FINDING A DRESS! Wish me luck. 🙂

    1. Hi Cheryl C……..Thank you for coming by. Glad to see you. Wow, your son’s wedding is right around the corner. You better get crackin’! I know you’ll find just the right one and it’ll be perfect. You’ll be a beautiful mother of the groom. So happy for you. My daughter whose picture I posted above in my blog married in February. The weather was supposed to have been perfect and it snowed 6 inches the night before. I’ve never been so cold in all my life. But the wedding was beautiful.

      Lots of luck on that dress!

  13. I had a very small wedding in a little country church but it was still very nice. I didn’t really want a big wedding.

    1. Hi Quilt lady…….Thanks for coming! I’m glad you enjoyed my blog. Your wedding sounds perfect. You just can’t beat those little country churches. They’re the right size and they have such atmosphere about them. I’m sure it was beautiful and you were a gorgeous bride.

      Have a great evening!

  14. We got married at my grandma’s childhood church that was at the next town over. When we went to see the priest to get the date for the wedding he asked us why we wanted to get married at this church and not at our church in the other town. We told him that we wanted to feel my grandma’s present when I walk down the isle.

    1. Hi Tammy…….Thanks for stopping by to comment. What a beautiful story! Thank you for sharing. I’m sure your grandma was there in spirit and wishing you well. I’ll bet it was a lovely wedding and you were a beautiful bride. I’m so glad you got your wish.

      Have a wonderful evening!

  15. Thanks for sharing about your family’s weddings, Linda.
    For years my mother saved the black and white plaid dress she was married in. Justice of the peace with no fanfare.
    When I married my hubby we had 100 exactly at our huge wedding. The ladies of the church provided the food for the reception and someone provided a cake for us. Very humble and down to earth but great memories.
    When our oldest got married she asked for her favorite foods from local attendees for her reception. It was more like a country church social. Another fond memory.

    1. Hi Rose……Thank you for your comment. I’m glad you enjoyed my blog. Weddings are what you make them. You’re exactly right. The memories are what we hold dear. It sounds like you had a very special wedding as well as your daughter. Having a potluck meal is an excellent idea and doesn’t cost anything! Wow!

      I’m so glad you came and shared that.

  16. Our daughter’s second wedding was very much a family affair. Only family was invited and it was a nice little group. He new husband’s oldest son (11) was his best man. Her son (3) and his second son (also 3) were ring bearers. His nieces 6 & 8)were the brides made and maid of honor. It was outdoors at the gazebo of an historic stone house. We catered the reception and her sister made the cake – key lime cheese cake per the bride’s request. We made the corsages and bouquet with artificial flowers and bugs, to make the boys happy. As it turned out, the minister that did the ceremony taught with the groom’s dad years ago. They knew each other, but hadn’t seen each other in years. As we came home, the town was having their annual celebration. We got there just as the fireworks started.
    Things were tight. The divorce had left the husband broke. I was searching thrift stores for shoes and dress clothes for the boys a couple of days before the wedding when I realized they had nothing to wear. The grooms brother never called to say he was coming from Georgia for the wedding. He showed up at our house a 2 AM the morning of the wedding. All he and his girlfriend had to wear were ragged coveralls they had dug out of the laundry. To top it off, they arrived with their little pot belly pig, Peaches. We did some scrambling to get them something decent to wear. In addition, my daughter and the boys were in the town parade that morning. And no, Peaches was not invited to the wedding. The kids had fun playing with her at the house the next day (along with the 5 puppies (5 weeks old) we were fostering for the pound. It was crazy to say the least

    1. Hi Patricia B…….Thank you for that wonderful comment. What a crazy wedding and the pig topped it off!! LOL I’m glad Peaches didn’t get an invitation to the wedding. Too funny. The key lime cheesecake sounds like my daughter. Her wedding was last February in the midst of a huge snowstorm. They didn’t deliver her flowers or cake so we had to scramble. Plastic flowers made do and we had a bundt cake at the reception. But it was still a beautiful wedding and they laughed through it all.

      There’s nothing wrong at all in shopping at thrift stores. You buy what you can afford. The wedding sounds very beautiful.

      I wish you every happiness!

  17. By the way, I wanted to say thank you. I just finished a reread of TEXAS MAIL ORDER BRIDE. Had been gone for 5 weeks or RT and a vacation in the Southwest which was cut short for a 2500+ mile drive to my father’s bedside. We were 15 miles from Dannemora, NY. The prisoners escaped the day after my father’s funeral. We have many relatives that either work at the prison or are retired from there, not to mention many that live in the area. It is true people don’t lock their doors. The lock on the door of my niece’s house where we were staying didn’t work. Things were tense while we were trying to get my father’s affairs taken care of. When we got home, we were mentally and physically exhausted. Cooper and Delta’s story was the perfect comfort read and it was needed. I look forward to reading the next two books in the series.

    1. Oh Patricia! Thank you for those kind words. They mean so much to me. I’m glad Cooper and Delta comforted you in your time of grief. Books can fill many holes, even those left by a death. I hope you get a chance to read Rand’s story – Twice a Texas Bride.

      Thank you again for your sweet comment!

  18. This fall will mark 52 years of marriage for us. I came from a big family and our two hometowns were only 10 miles apart so there were many guests at our wedding. It was small by some of today’s standards but it was a wonderful celebration.

    1. Hi Connie J…….Thank you for your comment. I loved hearing about your wedding. I’m sure it was a beautiful affair and you were stunning in your gown. I wish you many more years of wedded bliss!

  19. Hi Linda – My wedding was small also. My Mother made my white dress & hat. My sister & brother-in-law stood up with us. Now going on 47 yrs….hope, to see the 50th. Love reading your books & thanks for the chance to win one.

    1. Hi Lois…..Thank you for coming and telling me about your wedding. You have a sweet mother to make your dress and hat. I’ll bet she’s a talented seamstress. It must’ve been beautiful. The size of the wedding isn’t important. It doesn’t guarantee happiness. Evidently you found your Mr. Right. 47 years is a long time.

      Thank you for saying you like my books. That’s really sweet.

      Have a wonderful 4th of July!!

  20. I agree about money doesn’t make a marriage, which is why we got married by the judge with his cousins and my parents as witnesses. Then we had a small dinner for immediate family. That was 33 years ago and we’re still going strong.

    1. Hi Dali…….Thanks for coming to comment on my blog. I loved hearing about your wedding. You are so correct. Money doesn’t make a marriage. I’m sure your ceremony was lovely. You had all the people there you needed. Congratulations on 33 years! So happy for you.

      Have a wonderful 4th of July!

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